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How You Know You’re In a Committed Relationship

When you are dating someone new, everything feels perfect. It doesn’t really matter how long you have dated – it’s more important to answer that question in your head: when do you know… if your relationship is what it is?

A study by British relationship support organization Relate.org.uk. It reveals what couples in UK see as a sign of a serious relationship.

The top indicator was sharing problems, where 50% out of 6,000 respondents cited that as one of their top three signs of being in a committed relationship. It’s interesting that this ranked highest, more than the other two: ‘being in an exclusive relationship’ (44%) and even ‘getting married’ (39%).

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This suggests that couples feel closer when they share problems with each other. If you do not, perhaps it is time to consider communicating with your partner more often. After all, we feel more relieved when we share our issues rather than bottling them up. Life is full of ups and downs, and it makes sense to share your happiness AND troubles with the one closest in your life.

So the next time your partner is opening up to you… Instead of feeling annoyed, have patience and lend a listening ear instead. You will want them to be there for you when you need them too. Communication is key to successful relationships!


Stay loving,
LoveByte Cupid <3

LoveByte is a mobile app for couples to record their happy memories to form a meaningful, love journal containing favourite photos, notes and dates. Get it on iOS/Android: http://lovebyte.us/getapp.

60 Sweet Messages To Send To Your Boyfriend Or Husband

Whoever said that men should be the only ones doing the sweet-talking? Make your partner feel loved by dropping them a cute message at a random time of day to let them know that you are thinking of them. Here’s a list.

You look hot today, baby!
I’m so lucky you’re my best friend.
You rock, I love you so much.
You are my protector…feeling blessed.
Hey hottie, got plans tonight?
You are AMAZING. Just thought you should know.
I love being together. Miss you!
Have a great day at work – I’m counting down till you get home.
I like you. I like you a LOT.
I’m here for you sweetheart.
You are the most thoughtful guy I know.
Still laughing about your comment last night ;)
Thank you for being you.
You make me want to be a better person. Love you so much.
Feeling uber blessed today to have you in my life.
You are the funniest man I know.
Let’s get dinner.
You are one good looking guy- let’s hang out!
You. me. Picnic at 5pm.
Thanks for hanging that mirror, you’re so handy!
I love my man. FYI.
You are my favorite.
You are so thoughtful!
You inspire me, baby.
I trust you with all my soul.
What God has brought together, we shall never part…
Glad I have you in my life.
Today, tomorrow, forever…be mine!
Don’t worry, I’m here
Lets share our lives forever.
You are such a chivalrous gentleman when you’re with me.
You never let me down ever.
Life is like a box of chocolates, I got the nut
I don’t think I’m ever going to forget this wonderful date.
I love the way you hold me when we’re in bed.
I can’t even think of spending my life without you.
You’re the hero that I was waiting for.
I love you for what you are.
No one understands my silence better than you.
Take care, honey.
I love you more than anyone possibly could.
You are always there for me whenever I need you.
I love our life story.
I’m married to one sexy stud!
I will always love you.
You are hilarious, still laughing about….
You are my one of a kind. Feeling so blessed!
Need your love.
Need your cuddles.
I wanna be in your arms.
Miss u, miss u, wanna kiss u!
I miss you, come home.
Call in sick – let’s spend today together.
Do you know I love you? A lot!
You are so strong.
Be with me? Forever?
You are my sunshine.
Perfect night to snuggle. Meet me at 7pm.
I want to be in your arms.
You are my soulmate.
Hi. I love you. You should know that.
I can’t wait for our date night.
I’m counting down the hours till I see you.
You are the best father, ever.
How did I get so lucky to have you?
Being with you…is the best!
I need a kiss.

Stay loving,
LoveByte Cupid <3

LoveByte is a mobile app for couples to record their happy memories to form a meaningful, love journal containing favourite photos, notes and dates. Get it on iOS/Android: http://lovebyte.us/getapp.

Relationship No-no: ‘Sorry I’m busy working’

For the most of us living in cities, working overtime is not uncommon; but that doesn’t mean that it should the norm. We find ourselves getting caught in the daily hustle of life and end up feeling stressed, which may cause strains in the relationship.

Here’s the golden rule: Always make time for your partner. Schedule time to plan for a romantic vacation if you have to. Don’t let work take over your relationships. The infographic below compares how overworked people in various cities are and some survey results on its impact.


Source: TheRomanticHoliday

48 Ways To Be A Great Boyfriend

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  1. Get to know her friends and hang out with them
  2. Be respectful with her parents
  3. Give her space when she asks for it
  4. Don’t gossip about her
  5. Protect her from things that might hurt her
  6. Let her be with you when you are with your friends
  7. Encourage her to follow her dreams
  8. Don’t invade her social networking sites or her phone
  9. Introduce her as your girlfriend to others
  10. Let her choose her favourite movies and songs
  11. Look her in the eyes when you say “I love you”
  12. Not be afraid to hold her hand in public
  13. Let her wear your sweatshirts
  14. Don’t let her go when she pulls away from you
  15. Call her because you miss her voice
  16. Dedicate her your favourite song.
  17. Crack jokes to make her laugh
  18. Be her shoulder to cry on
  19. Give her massages
  20. Buy her cute gifts every once in awhile
  21. Stay up all night with her when she is sick
  22. Get the car and pick her up when it’s raining outside
  23. Stand up for her when people diss her
  24. Let her mess with your hair
  25. Cook for her
  26. Remember anniversaries
  27. Kiss her on the forehead
  28. Hold the door open for her
  29. Tell her she looks (beautiful, gorgeous, etc.) before going out on a date
  30. Remind her of why you fell for her in the first place
  31. Start and end everyday with “Good morning” and “Good night”
  32. Watch her favorite movies
  33. Compete with her when she says she loves you more
  34. Notice and compliment her when she gets a new haircut
  35. Be honest with your feelings and don’t lie
  36. Share your food with her
  37. Listen to her when she needs to vent
  38. Don’t forget the important things she tells you
  39. Talk about her when you are with “the guys”
  40. Talk about her when you are with your parents
  41. Act goofy
  42. Yet be comfortable showing her your sensitive side
  43. Tell her your secrets
  44. Share with her your dreams in life
  45. Make a bucket list of things to do together
  46. Make her things
  47. Make her your #1
  48. Cherish her for who she is.

How Technology Can Help Your Relationship

Technology can be irritating and hurtful to the relationship when your significant other is de-prioritized due to it. Complains about significant other’s texting during dinner or date night can be a big downer in a relationship, but all technology isn’t bad and it can actually help you improve your relationship and bring you closer.

A study conducted by the Pew Internet & American Life Project in 2013 showed that 10 % of people in an relationship said that internet had a major impact on their relationship, and 74 % of them said that it had a positive impact.

Here’s how you can ensure technology has a positive impact on your relationship and will bring you and your loved one even closer. 

Technology helps you stay connected and share things in your everyday life. It is the little things that bring you and your loved one close. Without thinking about it, you build your relationship by small things, such as noting that the weather today is really beautiful, mumbling a wow or laughing over something you are reading in the newspaper, and your loved one simply taking a moment to ask you what it was about or looking out the window and agreeing with you that it is a beautiful day. With technology you can easily share these little events and thoughts of your everyday life and it is great for staying connected in these simple, sometimes very subtle ways. A quick text to share events of the day can make your partner feel included. Even just texting a small smiley face can make your partners day and know that you are thinking about them.

Couples in a relationship often ask about each other day, how it was and what they have planned for the day, and then follows up later to ask how it went. This makes your partner feel that they are cared about and loved. A simple text message to wish your partner good luck before an important presentation or to ask how their day went, ensures that you keep this bond and care for each other, even when not there.

Remembering birthdays and important dates makes you feel loved (even if you might not care about celebrating). With technology it is easy to mark important dates and events. In your LoveByte calendar you can easily create an alarm to ensure that you remember your loved one’s birthday, your anniversary, and other important dates. You can even remind yourself to buy a card or gift ahead of time.

Technology can help you resolve fights.  Not all of us are ready to listen to what our partner has to say, and may not be able to react in a calm way when confronted with a problem. This can be due to previous experiences or simply the fact that we are very emotional people.

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Here a chat can actually help you. To send a note, or a long message to your partner explaining your feelings and emotions could help you get the message through easier and without having to end up in that screaming and crying session. Instead you can write down your thougts and let your partner read it and think about it for a while and let the information sink in, before you start talking. This way all those instant emotions that may not always help you sort it out have already passed and you are ready to discuss the problem and also have a greater understanding of where the other person is coming from.

Writing forces you to think about your message. Whilst you are writing your message, you also have to think about what you are actually saying and sometimes it can actually stop you from saying unnecessary hurtful things because you are upset. You often realize while writing that what you are saying and or feeling might actually be very over exaggurated. Writing forces you to think about your message and this is a good thing, as it forces you to think about all the why’s and how’s and how the message might be perceived and allows you to calm down and sort out all those emotions and thoughts before starting the conversation.

Technology can also be used as an aid to help you express yourself better. Not all of us are great at expressing our emotions and fears out loud, and therefore a text message or a note can actually help us do that as we don’t have to say it out loud and face our partner right away. This approach will gice you courage to do so next time you meet as you have already started the conversation. You are also giving your partner some time to let the information sink in so that once you meet and start talking in person you are already halfway through and have a good start to continue building everything on.

Technology removes obstacles such as time and geographical differences and you can easily share things with each other throughout the day. This creates a sense of being together even when apart which is very important for a relationship to grow stronger. It also enables you to get right to the point once you meet so you can start conversating right away on the events that has been going on during the day instead of having that mandatory small talk. This also helps you understand better if your partner might have had a rough day so you can perhaps prepare something special for them once you meet and be prepared to support and comfort them.

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Seeing your partner through the day keeps your love strong. When looking at people’s desks at work or around their homes you are likely to see pictures and other reminders of their loved ones. These things help them to always feel close and to help them get through those rough days. A study has shown that just by looking at a photo of a loved one can ease physical pain and help patients at a hospital recover faster. Using LoveByte ensures that you have all your photos and sweet love notes easy at hand so you can see your partner and remember all your good times, wherever you are. Using your phone and computer to have photos of your loved ones as screen savers, pictures in your cell phone, and video clips from fun times together are all modern and great ways to stay close.

/ LoveByte Cupid

 

The Different Languages of Love

We all feel loved in different ways and to receive love in all these languages are important. However some of them speak louder to us than the others. We briefly introduced the five languages of love in our infographic, today we’re elaborating a bit more.

Do you know which of these love languages is the most powerful one to you and to your partner?To figure out which ones matter most to you, ask yourself and your partner these questions first;

  • How do you express your love to others?
  • What do you complain about the most?
  • What do you request more often?

1. Words of Affirmation

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If this is your love language compliments and kind words are the most important to you and make your spirits fly sky high, but it would also mean that insults could leave you shattered and devastated and be very hard to forget. When we communicate our love using words we need to use kind words said with kindness and tenderness to be able to express our genuine love. Encouraging words are equally important to help lift the spirits of our partner and help them in the areas they feel insecure. Also if this is your partners love language, it is important to make requests, not demands in the relationship. To give guidance, and not to make ultimatums.

 

2. Quality Time

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When I love you is said through full and undivided attention. When being there for your loved one is the most important thing, with the TV-off, phones on silent and all chores put aside. If this is how you or your partner truly feels loved and appreciated it is very important to take this time off and make sure to spend a few hours a week togethor with undivided attention from each other where you fully focus on each others feelings and words, This do mean not to interrupt your partner whilst talking nor do anything else at the same time like looking one second on your phone to see that message your friend sent. It is important to realize that your partner feel very hurt when dates are cancelled, postponed, interrupted or when you failure to listen.

 

3. Gifts

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A lot of people mistake this language of love for materialism, however this language is more focused on the thought and effort behind the gift rather than the money spent. It is the visibility of the effort and love that speaks to their hearts when receiving gifts.

A small rock picked up during the morning walk where you’ve written I love you could mean equally much as a store bought expensive one as it is the thought and effort behind the gift that matters. The gesture of “he or she thought about me when doing this” is the importance here. So if this is you or your partners love language missed gifts for anniversaries, birthdays and so on could leave them feel devastated as they need these gestures of thoughtfulness and effort to feel loved.

 

4. Acts of Service

Anything you do to ease the burden of your loved ones chores speaks directly to their heart if this is their main love language. This also means that laziness, broken commitments and creating more work for them tells them that their feelings doesn’t matter and that you don’t care.

So if your loved one is nagging you over something, maybe try and see this as a sign that this task is really important for their feelings. It can be something just as easy as vacuuming the floors to make your partner feel loved. Basically everything that needs effort, planning and time will make your partner feel loved. It could be doing dishes, cooking, cleaning, dealing with the landlord etc.

 

5. Physical touch

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Physical touch is often mistaken for bedroom activities only, but this persons main love language is all sorts of everyday contact, hugs, kisses, hand on the shoulder, pats on the back and even something simple as hand holding when together. All this touching is a way for your partner to show excitement, care, concern and love. This also means that physical accessibility and presence is extremely important and if neglected can be devastating.

Small acts to show your love in everyday life is for example to sit close to each other and cuddle when watching TV and to give some sort of physical touch, like a small kiss every time before you leave and as the first thing when you return.

 

 

 

Love Happens #15 – “Solvent of all problems”

“Communication is the solvent of all problems and is the foundation for personal development.”
— Peter Shepherd

“She’s always feeding me, taking good care of me.” “He’s patient, tolerant and forgiving - and that’s hard to find.”

“She’s always feeding me, taking good care of me.”
“He’s patient, tolerant and forgiving – and that’s hard to find.”

It has been really comforting to hear the responses of many couples throughout this campaign. A common question we ask is “what do you like most about him/her?” and all the time, people reply with character and personality traits which they admire and appreciate, beyond skin-deep answers. It’s always a joy to see how their partner’s face lights up when being openly praised by their loved one. The sweet smiles that come after, a playful nudge, a bashful giggle or when they hold each other closer as they walk away from us after the interview just melts my heart all the time. (:

Patience, tolerance and forgiveness – perhaps the key elements required for any couple to emerge from misunderstandings stronger and more loving than before. Let’s face it, we’re all human and we have times of disagreement. In such times when we don’t see eye to eye, we may confront each other with hostility, we lose self-awareness and say hurtful things – things we don’t really mean. But it’s too late, we’ve said it. And before we know it, we’ve started a fight. I bet there are definitely times when this has happened to you, because it has for me. 

It’s a shame when a simple misunderstanding leads to a full-blown war. Times we could have spent loving each other, we spend on hurting each other. And when couples quarrel, two people are hurt. It doesn’t matter who started it and whose fault it is, fact is, we’ve hurt each other. Really, what’s the point of fighting and hurting?

Communication is vital to any healthy and strong relationship. Quarreling is not the kind of communication I’m referring to. Instead, I’m talking about a calm discussion where both parties share their perspectives on the issue and where they want to go from there. Talk not only about the issue at hand, but how you both could and would handle this situation should it come up again. I can’t tell you how to best solve your problems, but all I can do is urge all of you to always to consider your partner’s perspective in every conflict. Through doing so, you would be handling the issue maturely and not insist on your position without even trying to see things from another angle. Also, if you constantly do this, you get to understand your partner better, in how he/she thinks, how he/she handles conflicts, etc. Communication should always be constructive and positive and it should never be a competition to prove that one is “right” or on a moral high-ground.

Yes, couples quarrel. And I believe so have all the couples we’ve met and talk to so far. But we all move on from conflicts, and we become smarter and stronger than before. Not only would you grow as an individual, you grow as a couple, and slowly you’d be ready to take on the world together.

Stay strong together! (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #7 – “Laughter is the best medicine”

“I love it when she smiles. Most importantly, I am in love with her personality. She’s cheerful, and she’s adventurous.” “What does she like about you?” Turning to her, he started conversing with hand signs. It ended off with her smiling to herself. “She says it’s my humour… I make her laugh.”

“I love it when she smiles. Most importantly, I am in love with her personality. She’s cheerful, and she’s adventurous.”
“What does she like about you?”
Turning to her, he started conversing with hand signs.
It ended off with her smiling to herself.
“She says it’s my humour… I make her laugh.”

Smiles, laughter and humour play a big part in making a date ‘fun’. Adopting a cheerful disposition will never fail you. Positive feelings are key to a healthy relationship. Make a conscious effort to steer away from quarrels and fall outs, appreciate each other and the time you spend together. We all lead busy lives and for your other half to take out time just for you, it’s only right you put in effort for the date to be enjoyable for the both of you. Trust me, when you feel happy, the date would be a wonderful one. (:

Being happy works magic not just for you but for your partner as well. Couples support each other through thick and thin but let’s face it, it wouldn’t be pleasant if you’re dating someone who is consistently down, insecure and angry. Communicate your problems and share them, encourage each other and be careful that while you may be critical of what he/she is experiencing, you should always think before speaking. Is what you are going to say helping to make matters better? Are you showing support? Are you in all contributing to the situation positively? If not, do reconsider! It’s so easy for us to be insensitive and shoot our mouths off, belittling the problems and sadness our partner is going through. A little perspective-taking will serve you, him/her and the relationship a long way. (: And whatever it is, be POSITIVE, because positive energy is contagious. (:

Also, if you happen to be a LoveByte user, you could randomly send a scratchcard with a joke in it to brighten your partner’s stressful day at work. (;

So before I sign off, here’s a quote a friend once passed me when I was feeling down:

 “I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it’s the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It’s probably the most important thing in a person.”
― Audrey Hepburn

Never underestimate the power of humour! (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #3 – “I’ve found you, my missing puzzle piece.”

“As a guy, you don’t mind wearing matching T-shirts?” “No, not really. In fact, we have more than just these pair of shirts we’re wearing. Oh, we have a matching soccer jersey too.”

“As a guy, you don’t mind wearing matching T-shirts?”
“No, not really. In fact, we have more than just these pair of shirts we’re wearing.
Oh, we have a matching soccer jersey too.”

First thought that came to our mind when we chanced upon this couple was that they make a really sweet pair. (: It may be a simple donning of matching tees, but we can understand so much even without asking them anything. Donning of matching tees (or having couple items) is a symbol of affirmation of the relationship. By having couple/matching tees or items, we see that they are definitely not ashamed of their partner and in fact, they are proud to be in the relationship.

Being proud of yourself, your loved one and of the relationship itself is one of the key aspect of any healthy relationship. To our readers out there, make sure that in a relationship, your partner respects and appreciates you and is proud of you, that he/she is not ashamed to tell the world that he/she is attached to you. Of course, I’m not saying that public displays of affection (PDAs) are a must, but I’m saying that a basic level of expectation for how “public” your relationship is should at least be met. Signs of him/her denying the relationship when asked by others, insisting that he/she is single when you two are attached, etc. are signs that there needs to be more communication between the two of you. Always make sure that you both are on the same page and if you both are not, maybe it’s time to reconsider the relationship.

Having said all that, I must add that I don’t mean that all couples have to be “public” in order for them to work, what I mean is that you must be comfortable with how your relationship is. Remember that all couples have different dynamics, and all individuals have different value-orientations and personalities. Ultimately, the happiness of the both of you is most important, and communication is key to any successful and healthy relationship. (:

It’s the Christmas season and I’m sure you people out there are eager to get that one special gift. You could consider getting matching/couple tees/merchandise or even make them from scratch (self-painted shoes, self-knitted handphone socks, etc.) for you and your loved one. That’d be really sweet. (: If you are a LoveByte user, don’t forget to record this down on your Timeline! The very first day you all wore your couple tee/carried out your matching items together sure makes a wonderful memory worth remembering. (:

I hope that you were inspired by our two lovebirds featured here, as much as we were. Through one act alone, they’ve said it all. (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #2 – “I’d walk to you if I had no other way.”

“I’d walk to you if I had no other way.” – ‘Hey There Delilah’ by the Plain White T’s

“We met on Facebook in 2010, and were in a long-distance relationship for 1.5 years. Because he is from Paris, and me Dubai, there were issues with VISA but we didn’t let that stop us. We both decided to relocate so we could be together, and decided that Singapore was the place. In 2011, we got married here and we’re as happy as can be…”

“We met on Facebook in 2010, and were in a long-distance relationship for 1.5 years.
Because he is from Paris, and me Dubai, there were issues with VISA but we didn’t let that stop us.
We both decided to relocate so we could be together, and decided that Singapore was the place.
In 2011, we got married here and we’re as happy as can be…”

Featured in this photograph is Joy and Jerome, a couple whose story is testament to how Long-Distance Relationships (LDRs) do not just work out in the fictional world of Hollywood movies. For them to have gotten to the married life they share today, it took much effort, patience and understanding. In LDRs, you cannot always demand your loved one be there when you want it. In my opinion, the challenges faced can simply be summarized by Simple Plan’s ‘Jet Lag’

“You say good morning when it’s midnight,

going out of my head, alone in this bed.

I wake up to your sunset and it’s driving me mad,

I miss you so bad.”

But let’s not be all sulky and pessimistic. Adopting a less-taken perspective on LDRs, we see how LDRs really aren’t that different from other relationships. We’ve already established that LDRs require effort, patience and understanding – but don’t all relationships do? And that applies not just between lovers, but between friends and within families too. So my point is, hang in there. Yes, it is tough, but don’t forget that with every relationship comes its unique set of problems, long-distance or not. Always make the best out of every situation and remember that physical separation should never mean emotional distance.

Here, I’d like to take the opportunity to share with you one of my favourite movies that has a unique take on LDRs. In this movie, distance isn’t what separates the lovers, but time. Starring Sandra Bullock and Keanu Reeves, ‘The Lake House’ is one movie that you could watch with your loved one, snuggled up on the sofa for a cozy stay-in Movie Night together this cool December. (: For those of you who are in LDRs, I recommend a Movie-Night, where you two hit the ‘play’ button at the same time. Come across an interesting scene that you just have to comment on? Share it with your partner over chat. If you happen to be a LoveByte user, you could record this as your first (and truly memorable) long-distance movie date in the Timeline! (: (I love how the Timeline serves as a bank of memories, it makes writing anniversary cards so much easier!)

Of course, this movie is just a recommendation of mine, but there are so many other awesome movies out there that will do just fine too. (: This Christmas season, maybe stop to reflect on whether your other half has always been giving in to you – like watching movies which he/she does not enjoy as much, but he/she watched them anyway because he/she just wants to make you happy? Well, if this sounds familiar, then you’re one lucky girl/guy. (: Why not watch something else for a change, another genre perhaps, that you know your other half would love? Here’s when you realize that enjoying the movie isn’t about the movie itself – it’s about the shared experience. (: And really, isn’t that what love is about?

So, all of you out there in LDRs, chin up and embrace the experience because getting through tough times like this can only serve to strengthen your relationship. All the best to our audience in LDRs reading this! Keep Joy and Jerome in mind – and one day soon, you’d get there. (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

PS: LoveByte wishes Joy and Jerome a wonderful Christmas season of bountiful joy, warmth and love! <3