Stay Connected: Tips to Conquer Long Distance Relationships

Due to various circumstances, many couples find themselves in long distance relationships (LDR). A statistic report released in March 2015 revealed there are 14 million people in the United States alone that claim to be in a LDR, where 3.75 million of them led to marriage. With the abundance of communication platforms such as mobile devices and emails, staying in touch is no longer that difficult for couples living apart from each other.

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In a previous post, we have mentioned that LDR work successfully when built around commitment and trust. But, apart from these two important ingredients, there are ways on how can retain a strong relationship even when it’s put to the test by the distance you’re apart from one another. Here’s some effective ways to keep the flame going between you and your lover:

Play online games together
Keeping the fun in the relationship is vital for it to grow. But, how can you have fun when you are miles apart from each other? Thankfully, the Internet and computers made it easier for LDR couples to still be together in the digital world by offering online games that they can play as a team. Virtual reality games such as SIMS and Second Life are great platforms to show your closeness and desire for one another in the digital world. There are other multi-player games for couples that you can try if you can really work as a team even when you are under pressure. Loving From A Distance suggest the following games:

  • OMGPOP
  • Monkey Snowfight
  • Moon Base
  • Tank Ball 2

What’s your favorite game to play with your loved ones?

Keep the communication open
If there’s one important special ingredient for any relationship to work – it’s COMMUNICATION. With the help of technology, being in a LDR is no longer that difficult. Years ago, couples had to write letters to each other to stay connected. Nowadays, smartphones allow us to be closer to our loved ones even when we are miles apart. There are top messaging apps like LoveByte, video calling features, and even social media platforms that you can use to stay connected. By keeping your communications open and almost in real-time with your partner, it’s like distance doesn’t even exist as it feels like its bringing you closer together.

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Celebrate like never before
You will only feel the distance if you allow it to take over your relationship. Forget about how far you are from each other and enjoy the good times like never before. Celebrate small or big occasions together, even if it’s only via video calling. Cook together, prepare candlelight dinners, and even add wine or champagne. Show that you can enjoy and celebrate like the old times. If it’s your anniversary and you can’t be together, prepare special gifts that you can send to each other ahead of them. Life is short. Enjoy the simple things and celebrate together as a loving couple would.

Just like the famous quote goes: absence makes the heart grow fonder. Even if distance exists between you and your special someone, with the right amount of trust, commitment, and the rest of the items in this list – love can grow and blossom. What’s your secret ingredient(s) to keep a LDR successful? Share your experiences and tips with us below.

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5 deal breakers that aren’t really deal breakers

This article first appeared on LunchClick – the first dating app that is designed to encourage offline, face-to-face dates. Download it today!

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As much as we all have our own ideas of the “perfect mate”, most of us would have realised by now that they don’t exist. After all, our imaginations will always mislead our expectations of real life. And more often than not, it’s the insignificant things that we tend to lose sleep over.

Here are 5 of them:


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1. She’s vegetarian

Dietary restrictions or preferences are less of a big deal than you think. Sure, you’ll never be one of those couples that will be able to polish off half the menu at Carnivore. But perhaps you might want to show your love in a different way – by giving his/her food a shot. You might like it. And small gestures like that will go a long way.


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2. He spends every Friday night playing video games

A relationship does not mean the end of all personal space. We all have routines and ‘me time’ activities that we stick to. As much as we would love to be that couple hanging out in a chic bar on Friday, Saturday and Sunday nights, remember that you both had your own lives before you got together.


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3. She spends too much time wanting to take selfies

We all have habits that our partners can’t stand. That’s to be expected. Sit down, talk about it and compromise. Agree that you will entertain each other’s whims but know also when you should back down so your relationship doesn’t just exist on your terms. It isn’t all about you!


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4. He should have stuck with his previous job which was more stable and paid more, not this new one that he actually likes but had to take a pay cut for!

Every once in a while, people make choices that prioritise their happiness over all else. Learn to share in that happiness. Try to ignore the fact that you have house loans to pay. Money can be earned; happiness, not so much. And a relationship needs happiness to work, not money.


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5. She doesn’t read as much as I would like her to

Opposites attract. That’s the truth. Try to look at your hobbies as opportunities to explore new things together. If she doesn’t like to read, introduce her to a magazine that you like. Start small. In turn, try to appreciate something that she likes, and get her to guide you through it.

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With relationships, it’s always easy to end up sweating the small stuff. Arguments make it a lot worse, because all of a sudden, every tiny thing becomes intolerable. Try to remember that personality differences are always opportunities to grow together, not apart.

 

How Your Attachment Style Influences Every Relationship

This article was originally posted on LunchClick.

Over the years I’ve seen relationships amongst my friends come and go, and I’ve been in my fair share of successful and failed relationships as well. And I’ve realised that part of what it boils down to is this: are you secure in your relationship?

Let’s imagine a scenario: you and your boyfriend or girlfriend have just had an awful quarrel. It doesn’t really matter what it’s about. It could be the fact that you’re both busy lawyers and you hardly ever see each other. It could be about the fact that her parents don’t like it when she stays over at your house. It could be about the fact that he’s not ready to commit although you’ve already been together for four years. Or it could be about the trivial things: all the beer he drinks, all the shoes she buys, or the friends that you don’t like him or her to hang out with.

We’ve all been there, haven’t we?
Now, imagine that your boy or girl comes up to you and tries to hold out an olive branch. Maybe he doesn’t say anything, but he wakes up early in the morning and goes and buys you tiao and porridge for breakfast because he knows you like it. Maybe she comes over and takes your hand and says “I’m sorry for yelling.”
What do you do?

(a) You immediately think, “Aiyah, it was a stupid quarrel and it was partially my fault anyway.” Then you kiss and make up and the incident is forgiven and forgotten on both sides – or tabled for discussion at a future time when you’re both calmer and in a better frame of mind.

(b) You’ll be happy that the other person is trying to make it up to you, but you won’t be really okay with it until you hear it from him or her: “Look, bae, I’m so sorry. I was wrong and you were right, and I shouldn’t have said what I said last night. I love you, okay?” Otherwise you’ll keep sulking for a while, and you’ll worry that he or she doesn’t love you after all.

(c) You’ll sit down and eat breakfast and pretend the quarrel never happened. If your partner attempts to bring it up again, you’ll say, “Look, does it even matter? I’ve got a lot to think about at work and I can’t really be bothered to talk about this right now.”

(d) You don’t know how you’ll respond. Some mornings you’ll be touched and happy, and more than willing to make things up, but some mornings you’ll think to yourself, “Oh, she’s / he’s just trying to get me to let my guard down!”

These four answers correspond to four different attachment styles, which describe what you’re like in a relationship and how you emotionally relate to your partners.

1) If you answered (a), congratulations, you’re a secure person in relationships!
If you’re secure, you’re confident that your partner will be around and able to meet your emotional needs. You’re happy to have your own space and to give your partner his or her space, but at the same time, when you’re unhappy, your partner is the person whom you look to for soothing and comfort. And of course, on the flip side of things, you’re happy to be that person for your partner as well.

2) If you answered (b), you’re likely to be anxious-preoccupied.
The anxious person is the clingy boyfriend or girlfriend who’s over-invested in a relationship. They’re dependent on reassurance and their emotional needs are significant. Without acceptance and love, their own self-confidence suffers.
If you are an anxious-preoccupied, here’s one top tip for you:
Try to fight this by looking for fulfillment outside of your relationship. Focus on work, try and find a new hobby, or go out and make new friends. It’s not healthy to depend solely on your partner for your emotional support, and it’s not healthy for your relationship in the long term either. Set yourself easy targets: “Oh, by the end of this month I’ll be able to do this new pose in yoga class,” or, “I’ll make it past that overhang on the rock wall.” These may be small targets, but you may be surprised at the boost that they give your self-esteem!
3)      If you answered (c), then you are a dismissive-avoidant.
The dismissive-avoidant person thinks of himself or herself as an extremely independent person, with the tendency to try to distance themselves from people. Often, they are action-oriented people (you may find yourself saying, “Well, okay, but what do you want me to do? Just tell me and I’ll do it.”) and have little patience for emotional discussions. They may shut down quarrels by saying, “You know what? This is a waste of time”, or, if threatened with a break-up, they may again close themselves up and say, “Yeah, go ahead – I don’t really care.”
If you are a dismissive-avoidant, here’s one top tip for you:
Try to counteract this tendency by biting your tongue any time you want to say “I don’t care.” Instead, set some time limits on the discussion by telling your partner, “Okay, let’s talk about this for the next fifteen minutes. After that, though, I really need to get to work. Is that okay?” This helps you deal with your dislike of emotional engagement (hey it’s only fifteen minutes!) while still letting your partner know that you’re willing to deal with this.

4) Lastly, if you answered (d), you have a case of the hedgehog’s dilemma, or a fearful-avoidant attachment style.

The concept was first established by German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer, himself a notoriously prickly person who unfortunately remained a bachelor for life. If you are a fearful-avoidant, you have two conflicting desires: firstly, to get closer to your significant other but secondly, to avoid hurting him or her and being hurt in turn. As a result, your relationship may be rocky, with periods of intense closeness and then a sudden retreat into distance again.
If you are a fearful-avoidant, here’s one top tip for you:
Try to take off the prickles! If you find yourself swinging into the avoidant stage of things, note it down somewhere in a diary and try, the very next day, to get closer to your partner. This could be simple physical closeness – have a cuddle on the couch! – but it could also be emotional closeness. Tell your partner something about yourself that you’ve never told someone before. Tell him or her about your hopes or fears. Train yourself to overcome the hedgehog’s dilemma!

Ultimately, we all aim to be secure individuals, and while we may sometimes slip into different patterns in times of stress, I think we can all agree that being intimately involved in the emotional life of your partner while still giving him or her the right amount of space is a good thing! To find out more about your own personality type, you can take this quiz here. Good luck!

Next time, we’ll talk about the masters and disasters of love: how psychologist John Gottman learned to predict, simply by observing behaviour, whether or not a couple would stay together or break up.

LoveByte Couple: Brielle & Yasayasha

We discovered a super cute LoveByte couple, Brielle and Yasayasha, who participated in our recent #lovebyte14days challenge to improve their relationship – and here, we have the chance to write about their story… :)

How long have the two of you been together?
We’re still a new couple – it’s only been 225 days. We will celebrate our 8th month together on 11 July 2015. (^w^)

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How did you both meet?
We met by some unbelievable coincidence on the campus orientation. So he was a senior, 2 year older, in charge of my group. Don’t know why we’re like having the same feeling for that one day. Somehow I knew that he will be with me someday, and he felt the same way! Who knew that it worked since we’re not the “relationship type” of person. We’ve chatted about this and we’re like; “yeah, being single is the best…”. We do like to be single all the way, but this time is different, truly different :3
And so from that orientation day, we build up a friendly bond between us and the feeling starts to grow and grow! (^_^) Until about 3 months later, he confess his love on 03-11-14, at a garden of our campus. It was really sweet how he did it but I told him to wait and give me for like a week to think about it. On the way of “waiting”, we kept giving each other a letter. It was actually a letter about our feeling and also revealing every thoughts about this relationship before we really be together. Finally, I answered him with a “YES” letter on 11-11-14 which is my favourite number and also the official Pepero Day! *We actually knew this from one of the LoveByte posts.

What do you use LoveByte for mostly?
We use every feature that Lovebyte has like; photos, date reminder, notes and the new feature: List. It’s a very useful feature because you can make a list whether if it’s a wish list or a list that you want to share with your partner. I like the idea of this feature! :D Both of us enjoy storing all the many, fun date ideas that we have. 

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What is your favourite date activity?
We love to snuggle ( ^w^)(^w^ )! Especially while we’re watching a movie. We also love to chit-chat about almost everything that we’ve experience in our day. We can talk about anything to each other like the bad stuffs we’ve encountered, good things that happened, interesting information, gossip.. anything under the sun!

Even though we can still meet at campus everyday, we still each other at night. It’s like we can never get tired of talking, because we feel so comfortable with each other. *This is actually funny because I am quite shy but somehow, I can really be a talkative person around him. I can feel that he’s my comfort zone since I know I can discuss about anything with him and he didn’t mind that at all :”)

What’s one challenge you have overcome as a couple?
Like many of normal relationships, we have a few problems that have happened along the way. Having problems doesn’t aways mean it’s negative, it actually makes your bond stronger and also to become more mature on facing another problems.

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How does LoveByte help you in your relationship?
The LoveByte app is like a world of us, no one else. It’s really nice to have a personal moments together like that stored in one place. It helps us to keep our memories together, stored many of our stories (kinda like a journal), captured special moments, and a reminder of how long have we been together :)

What is the best advice you could give couples for a happy and harmonious relationship?
For us, communication is the most important key to have a great relationship. It’s a bond that you can build, especially with your significant other. be surely that your partner is the most person you can communicate with because one day he/she is gonna be your partner forever. When you’re getting old, the only person that you can talk to is him/her :3

How did you know he was “the one”?
To be honest, I can’t fully explain this because even myself don’t understand how it works, how love works. At first, I like him because knowing that he’s kinda similar with my big brother’s style. That’s the first point that catches my attention. But on the way now, I realized that I have no more reason to explain why I love him so much and knowing that he’s the one. The only thing I know now is that I wanna keep taking care of him and loving him because I believe that he is the one for me :)


Stay loving,
LoveByte Cupid <3

LoveByte is a mobile app for couples to record their happy memories to form a meaningful, love journal containing favourite photos, notes and dates. Get it on iOS/Android: http://lovebyte.us/getapp.

Have a Checklist When Finding Your Soulmate

This article is originally posted on LunchClick.

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Just like Lane Daniels, Hilary Duff’s character in Beauty and the Briefcase, we’re all looking for our magic men – one with the brains, brawn, and beyond. While Lane aspires for a spontaneous, style-savvy lover with a sexy accent and drops witty statements on the tip of his tongue, we may have other priorities. It’s always great to you know what you want, but if you’ve got 101 items on your checklist, you might as well head to the lab and take matters into your own hands.

As you come back down to Earth, we’ve rounded up a few pointers on creating a more effective checklist that doesn’t leave you empty-handed and crestfallen.

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Dos:

#1: Do know what your absolute deal-breakers are

Whether for religious, racial or personal reasons, these red flags should be reserved for ultimate no-exceptions traits. Perhaps you could never date a smoker because you don’t have the tolerance for tobacco, or, on a more severe scale, an addict because that’s a can of worms you’re not willing to open.

#2: Do know what your absolute needs are

On the other hand, there are certain things you require in a partner. Note that it should be a need, not a want. Some of the obvious ones that don’t come with wiggle room include mutual love and moral sense.

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#3: Do aim for characteristics that are key ingredients to a lasting relationship

For instance, loyalty, respect, kindness, compassion, selflessness… the list goes on. The point is to find someone who is committed to going the distance with you through the hills and valleys till death makes its inevitable claim.

Don’ts:

#1: Don’t make physical goals

The last thing you’d want to base your relationship on is a seductive set of rock-hard abs that could and most certainly would eventually fade away. Nonetheless, that’s not to say you should place physical attraction entirely on the back burner.

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#2: Don’t make material goals

Say you only date millionaires. What could happen? Well, not only will you be limiting yourself to the handful of upper class fat cats and moneybags, you’ll also be developing a shallow affair. When there’s nothing left in this world, you’d want a companion you can live with, even in poverty.

#3. Don’t pull their family and friends into the picture

Don’t go steady with someone just because Oprah is a personal friend or distant aunt. Likewise, don’t pull the plug because you abhor their nettlesome relatives. Remember, you’re not pursuing the people around them.

The bottom line is to avoid being unrealistic and overreaching. At the end of the day, if the attraction is there, your checklist could probably afford some flexibility. Because hey, when love happens, it happens – as trite as it sounds.

5 Relationship Hacks For an Everlasting Honeymoon Period In Your Relationship

This article is brought to you by ShopBack, originally posted on LunchClick.

It’s sad that the honeymoon phase of every relationship is so temporal. Sooner or later, that giddy, butterflies-in-your-tummy, blush-y, and slightly obsessive-compulsive feeling you get when you think about your significant other will ebb away. But even if you’ve gotten all comfortable around your guy or girl, that doesn’t necessarily mean that your *spark* has to fizzle out. Read on to find out more!

1. Surprise them at work

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Nothing will brighten your partner’s day more than a sweet surprise. Here’s what to do: Pack a lunch comprising of their favourite treats, and turn up at their office unexpectedly – but prior to this, you may have to do a little conspiring with his/her colleagues to make sure that your partner isn’t in a lunch meeting. We guarantee that your partner will be beaming with happiness for the rest of the day!

#2: Send them little messages throughout the day

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Along with stability in a relationship comes stagnation in the romance department. Where you once exchanged texts endlessly until the wee hours of the night, and argued about who loves who more, you may now no longer bother to express your love to each other. But that shouldn’t be the case! Inject more romance and life into your relationship by continuing to affirm your love for each other – have fun phone conversations, or even write a cute note and leave it somewhere that they’re bound to pass by. It’ll do wonders for your relationship!

#3: Make them a playlist to listen to

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Everyone loves music, so why not take your cue from John Cusack in Say Anything? We’re not saying that you have to go the whole hog and actually drive up to your bae’s door carrying a boombox on you – there are plenty of alternatives that are more suited for modern day, such as burning a CD to pop into their car player for a little rush hour surprise, or sending them a Spotify playlist specially crafted from songs that you think they’ll like.

#4: Dress to impress

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You have been together for a good while now, so I guess it’s acceptable to walk around in sweats all the time, right? Wrong! We have it on good authority (from our bestie Eva Mendes) that the secret to a happy marriage is not wearing sweatpants. But jokes aside, you should still make an effort to dress up once in a while – it’ll show your other half that you think they’re worth the effort, and they’ll also feel proud when they’ve got a good-looking partner on their arm!

5. Play hooky

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Take a break from your everyday routine. Call in sick for work and sneak off to spend the whole day together. You’ll not only feel the teenage thrill of skiving, but you’ll also get some valuable time freed up in your busy schedules to spend with each other!

It’s inevitable that as two people get comfortable with each other, they get lazy, and the initial intense attraction fades off into something that’s less passionate, but enduring. That having been said, it’s really up to you if you’re willing to put in the effort to keep the spark burning – as you can see from our suggestions above, it’s really not that difficult. Happy dating!

In her own words, with love.

We were very touched when we received a message from a user a while back. Their 1st year anniversary is coming up and she wants to give her man a surprise. Yes, of course, we can be your messenger! This is Cupid you are talking to after all.

Here’s the story of Tracy Anne Capuso and FS San Valentin Jr..

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It has been more than a year since we first shared our own love story in LoveByte. Guess what? It’s also been a year of a wonderful relationship for us! Hooray! Nothing makes me happier than to think that I am already with the man who I want to be with. Not just for this year’s anniversary, but for the rest of our lives. <3

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We’ve known each other online for almost 10 years, and we met personally last April 2009 before we lost contact again a few months later. Who knew that after 5 long years, our paths would cross again. Do you guys believe in destiny? I guess, for me, I really do. I believe that we don’t meet people by accident, they are meant to enter our lives for a certain reason. For us to have our chance again after 5 years, it was a chance to show and say what we wanted to convey and express years back. Maybe fate did its part, for us to be able to become happy together in each others’ arms once again.

1A year full of happiness and overflowing love is what I have experienced and what I will truly treasure for the rest of my life. Though we know that there’s really no perfect relationship, there will always come a time where in you will experience ups and downs, good times and bad times, struggles, problems, fights, arguments, sadness, hurt, and guilt. What makes it meaningful and worth having is when both of you resolve, overcome challenges together, which makes you both stronger as a couple, and even as a person.

Happy Anniversary! Hope that they can spend many, many more happy moments with each other and we wish them all the best!

Stay loving,
LoveByte Cupid <3

LoveByte is a mobile app for couples to record their happy memories to form a meaningful, love journal containing favourite photos, notes and dates. Get it on iOS/Android: http://lovebyte.us/getapp.

LoveByte 14 Day Challenge

love challengeWhat’s the secret to a loving relationship?

There is no secret. It’s effort :) It might be helping out your partner with an errand, writing a love note to let them know they are loved, or doing a simple activity together. At LoveByte, it’s about keeping the romance alive and showing appreciation for each other.

We’re inviting couples to embark on our 14 day challenge (yes, let’s start with 14..). Do it for yourself and feel for yourself how your relationship has improved by the end of the fortnight.

Here’s how it works: The both of you can start the challenge anytime. For the next 14 days, check off an item from the suggested list of things to do every day. You don’t have to do them in order; simply choose to do what fits your schedule, as long as you complete one each day! It’s OK to skip a day, but remember to make up for it!

  1. Share a sweet memory from childhood.
  2. Dedicate a meaningful song for each other.
  3. Share an ice cream.
  4. Plant 15 kisses on different parts of each other’s body.
  5. Experiment a new recipe together.
  6. Give each other a compliment and mean it.
  7. Snap a picture of yourself with a pose your partner picks!
  8. Go for an exercise together. eg. yoga, running
  9. Add 3 things to your shared To-Do List on LoveByte.
  10. Turn on some music and slow dance.
  11. Spend a fruitful day at the animal shelter.
  12. Have a picnic in your own living room.
  13. Try on new clothing styles and model for each other at the mall.
  14. Write a letter to each other to open only 1 year later!

Feel free to print the below and paste it somewhere visible. Keep track of the progress by using the hashtag #lovebyte14daysand share it with us on Instagram! Get started now!

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Stay loving,
LoveByte Cupid <3

LoveByte is a mobile app for couples to record their happy memories to form a meaningful, love journal containing favourite photos, notes and dates. Get it on iOS/Android: http://lovebyte.us/getapp.

I Went to Suburban Malaysia to Meet my Future In-Laws

This article is brought to you by LunchClick.

Months ago, my boyfriend reasoned that it was high time for me to meet his parents. It was something that I had been delaying, but he had already met my family on two occasions, so I couldn’t put off the dreaded day any longer. On top of the usual nerves about whether they would like me or find me an eyesore, I had a pressing problem: They only spoke Chinese. My spoken command of the language was dreadfully poor, limited only to ordering food and answering questions about the weather.

Oh, and did I mention that his parents live across the Causeway? Yes, I’m dating a Malaysian, and his parents live in Skudai, Johor Bahru. It’s a good 30 to 45 min drive from the checkpoint. Here’s a few key points that I got out of my experience that you can hopefully learn from.

#1 Make sure you’re 100% prepared before the actual day.

My parents drove my boyfriend and I in on that day, approximately a week after the start of the Lunar New Year. They dropped us off at a bus stop outside his place, where his brother was supposed to fetch us. Then, this happened:

“My brother said that my father sent the car for a wash. So my father will be fetching us instead.”

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NO WAIT WHAT I HAVEN’T REHEARSED MY NEW YEAR GREETINGS YET W-W-WHAT?

I had planned to practice my new year greetings, and think of conversation topics along the way. But because of this unforeseen turn of events, I ended up sitting in a car with my boyfriend’s dad in (rather awkward) silence.

#2 Be prepared for different customs and traditions, even if you’re of the same ethnicity.

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I never thought that our dining culture could be so different that it would pose a problem, but I was proven wrong. There was a lack of ladles, and they used forks and spoons instead of chopsticks. How was I supposed to cook my food in a hotpot with a fork?

Dining culture aside, I was also unprepared for the extreme amount of spice in their unassuming looking chilli sauce. Upon trying a tiny portion, I didn’t even say anything, I just ran for my mug of water on the coffee table and emptied its entire contents into my mouth. MY MOUTH WAS ON FIRE. Everyone laughed heartily.

#3 Try not to let the age gap get to you.

My boyfriend is seven years older than me, and about to graduate from university. He’s the last to graduate amongst his group of friends, all of whom are already working. In fact, quite a few of them are married, and some even have kid(s) in tow. The age gap was pretty palpable. I felt really out of place, with the general discussion being centered on jobs, marriage, finances and even insurance.

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#4 The Malaysian accent will throw you off.

It’s perfectly alright when you’re talking to a few people, but when it’s a group of fourteen people laughing raucously with multiple conversations happening at the same time, you’ll definitely be stunned. I even thought that they lapsed into Hokkien at a point in time, but apparently not.

#5 Suck it up.

If there’s anything you’re unhappy about or discomfited by, try to leave it to after the day is over. Don’t create a scene on the spot. In retrospect, I’m glad that I put up a smile and readily agreed when his friends wanted to continue the round of CNY visits at another friend’s house during dinner time. After all, you only get one chance to make a first impression, and you want to make sure that you do it right.

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All in all, my boyfriend’s friends and family were nothing short of welcoming and friendly, so there’s a lot to be grateful for. Committing to a transnational relationship and marriage requires a lot of thought and dedication. In my specific case, I also learnt to be conscious of certain different standards and biases, and to never ever be patronizing about the supposed city vs suburb divide.

My grandma predicted that I would break up with my boyfriend after visiting his parents in Malaysia.

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I’m proud to report back: not a chance!

Long Distance Relationships Can Work with Commitment and Trust

We are uncovering the love story of Syrene(s). It’s definitely our first time we interview a couple sharing the same name… very interesting! Also, they are in dating from two different places, Davao city and Dumaguete city.

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How did you both meet?
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We met in elementary school when I was in grade 6 back then and she was in grade 4. She was a transferee and since our school was not so big and I was already familiar with all the faces of the students in our school, she immediately caught my attention. She was that kind of girl who can turn one’s head immediately; pretty, simple, and amazing! I asked her classmates, who happened to be my close friends, what her name was. To my big surprise, we shared the same name with the exact spelling!!

I was but a kid who knew nothing about love but I had always admired her.  They moved away and eventually, we lost contact. After 7 long years, her family has decided to have a vacation in our town.. I was walking and suddenly I saw her with her dad. That awesome feeling upon meeting someone from the past! It was amazing that I still had the same feeling I had for her a long time ago. We reconnected and started texting again and we agreed to meet up and visit our school. And our love story began.

We have been together for almost three years, even though we are in a long-distance relationship.

What’s one of the challenges you have faced so far?
We encounter a lot of challenges in our relationship but I guess the most challenging one is the reality that we are in a long distance relationship. It is hardest especially when we fight. We don’t have any other communication to talk things but sending long messages to each other, explaining things, arguing things until we settle things out and be okay.

We do not get affected with long distance – instead we beat it with trust, loyalty, and commitment. Despite our distance, we never doubted our love. We never had anyone else just to fight the feeling of emptiness caused by the distance between us. Lastly, the commitment that we just have to love each other no matter what helps us get through it. We quarrel a lot, we get jealous, we argue, but at the end of the day, we know we’re still gonna choose each other NO MATTER WHAT.

I am proud because after all the challenges we’ve been through we are still standing strong, ready to face any battle that we face. It is not easy but we are one of the proofs that nothing is impossible.

How does LoveByte help you in your relationship?
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What amazes me with this app is the feeling of belonging in it. you see there are a lot of apps that we could use but LoveByte is kinda different because it’s the only app that we value the most.

When we fought, we have changed our relationship status and unfriended each other in Facebook, deleted some precious posts on it and even deactivated our account. But strange enough, both of us have never dared to uninstall LoveByte. It’s like it truly symbolizes the value of our relationship and there’s that weird feeling of feeling that deleting our LoveByte will end everything. LoveByte is the only app that connects us this way.

We use LoveByte for posting our special moments together. One reason why I love LoveByte because even though we posted the pictures later, the app still detects the date the photo was taken. We also use LoveByte by sending sweet messages using Secret Message and having fun using its cool stickers in chat. And we love counting the days of being together.

When we want to reminisce things, LoveByte is one of our best apps to remember good things in our relationship, like a diary of our love story. Every time we open it, all the bad thoughts in our heads will be erased. Indeed, LoveByte app has lot of functions for couples.

What’s the best advice for other couples?


Don’t you ever break the trust of your partner to you, because it causes a big disaster in your relationship. Be faithful. Be honest. If you done something wrong tell her, even if you know that she’ll gone mad at you. As what they say, “It is better to hurt her with the truth, than make her happy with a lie.”

BREAKUP is never the answer. You chose someone so better stick with him/her. When you are at the verge of giving up, think of all the sacrifices you had just to keep the relationship up until this very day. It’s easy to end a relationship but it is very hard to build a new relationship with someone else. Want a better relationship? Make your move and think about ways to make your partner happier rather than thinking about how it feels to have a relationship with someone else. Remember, happy wife, happy life…

We are really excited for the couple and we wish them all the best!

Stay loving,
LoveByte Cupid <3

LoveByte is a mobile app for couples to record their happy memories to form a meaningful, love journal containing favourite photos, notes and dates. Get it on iOS/Android: http://lovebyte.us/getapp.