Today we have Tracy talking to us about her relationship with FS. You won’t believe how they met!
1. How long have the two of you been together?
We’ve been together for 168 days. We have this kind of on/off relationship that started 2009, if we wouldn’t have lost communication during the past few years, we would have been together longer. But now, that we are together again, we won’t let anything be wasted again. Ever since I met him, no one else is worth thinking about.
2. How did you both meet?
We both met as textmates! We have a common friend and he asked this friend if she could give him some textmates, I don’t remember how many numbers she gave him, but fortunately one of the numbers was mine. That was way back in 2005. I was just a first year high school student back then. Too young to get into a relationship.
We started texting and we got to know each other over a few months. We were not texting each other frequently so as years passed, we lost communication and he started to talk to me again around November 2008. And this is where we started to have what you would call “something” between us. As we got to know each other, I had this feeling that “Ah! We’re the same”, and even if we’d already talked for hours, the conversations were never boring and I didn’t get tired of talking to him.
2009 was the year for us. We texted and talked every day. We always stayed up late to talk to each other and sometimes we didn’t even notice that it was already morning! This was the year when we first met each other in person as well, and had our first date, just the two of us. However after this we lost contact again due to certain issues. But he never stopped texting me even when I changed my number or replied. And as the years passed we were both having our own lives, interests, careers, etc. and I thought he had forgotten about me, but he hadn’t and I am so glad and thankful that he never gave up on me after all these years.
3. How did you find out about LoveByte?
My friend uses it so she showed it to me. I also saw it on Google Play Store because it was featured. I found it cute and unique because the app is really for couples who want to get a track of what they have been doing together, all their memories, happy moments and photos. It’s also counting how many days you have been together. When you log in and see the days, you have this feeling that “Its already been this long?” and you just feel happy that you got to spend those days with your loved one. When I first saw it, we were not yet together again, so I wished that someday I would want to use that app, with him. And now, I am so happy that I got the chance to to do that. I thought that guys were not into this kind of stuff, but in my surprise, he likes it too! Whenever when we got home from a date, he always adds the date to the app and I will be the one to upload the photo. Right now, LoveByte is my most used app on my phone. I always check it, around a minimum of 10 times a day to see if he’s updated something, or if he commented on my post and if he replied on my scratchcards and chat. You just feel excited whenever there’s a notification!
4. How/What do you use LoveByte for mostly?
Before LoveByte, we were already listing our dates. Like where and when it was, what did we do, etc. Because I am this type of girl who appreciates those kind of small things, and I know that he also likes it. I want us to remember every single moment we spend together, all of our firsts, like the first time we visit a certain place, first time to eat this kind of food, etc. things like that. I know it’s a bit childish or funny but that’s what who we are. We treasure all these moments that we got to spend with each other. But sometimes, you just forgot to update the list and when we are talking and remembering it, like where did we go last week, what day is it, we are always quarreling if the one I remember is the correct one, or if his is. So thank God for this app. It’s perfect for us! You can add photos, dates and even notes. We use it as a track of all the dates and things that we do together. Now that we are using the app, after our date, we will update it immediately and also upload our picture together. All our dates, our firsts together are listed here. When I see our dates and pictures together, I just feel like “I want to spend more time and go on more dates with him, I want to travel to more places and explore more. With him”. I told him that I want to see the days spent together, photos and even dates reach thousands and I am so happy that he also feels the same.
5. What is your favourite activity (date) to do together?
Since our first few months together, I was still studying and he was already working. We could only meet on Sundays if we wanted to spend the whole day together. On weekdays we could only meet up after his work, and then we don’t have much time. We love spend our time strolling the mall while holdings hands, sitting next to each other on the seaside, talking to each other and laughing together, while eating his favorite shawarma.
We also like to visit places that were on my list. I am so happy that he is always there and game to accompany me wherever I like to go even if some of the places that I want to visit are kinda funny and unusual. He always says that wherever we go, as long as he’s with me and we’re together it is alright. Of course, I feel the same way too. Even if we’re just at home, watching movies, talking to each other, eating.
6. Discuss one of the most testing challenges you have faced so far, as a couple and how do the two of you ultimately resolve it?
For me, it’s the distance. Being in a long distance relationship is hard. There are times that you really want to see each other and be together, but you can’t. You can’t do anything, just wait for the moment when you are able to see each other again. Before he was living in a province which is slightly far from where I live, so we were unable to meet as much as we would have liked. Since I was still a high school student back then, I was not allowed to go on a date and meet a guy. Whenever he had time and money, he would travel here so we could meet. All we had was our cellphone in order not to lose communication. But right now, he is working in the city so it’s a bit closer to here, around 1 to 1.5 hours travel only. The problem now is the availability of each other. We make sure that if one of us is free and available to do something, the other would do whatever possible to match that time. We never let two weeks pass by without seeing other, simply because we miss each other terribly. We do however support each other and understand when we don’t always have time for each other due to school or work. We have to prioritize and sometimes it feels like we have to make a choice between school and seeing each other, and it can be really hard. But we try to support each other and understand that sometimes we have to focus on our school and work and we will miss each other but that is fine.
7. How does LoveByte help you in your relationship?
It’s easier to get a track on our memories together and we won’t forget all the special dates and memories we have together. LoveByte gives us the privacy that I want and we can talk about our dates together on the app, and we can upload our photos. It’s like our special place, just for the two of us. Also, it’s nice to see how he feels and what he says when he is adding a date or a photo of us together. Of course, it adds excitement, aside from getting a text or a call from each other. In LoveByte we can send notes, scratch cards and upload photos and this makes our communication more versatile.
We love to look back on the dates we’ve added and reminisce on all the shared memories together. This helps us move forward on those days apart.
8. What is the best advice you could give couples for a happy and harmonious relationship?
We know that nobody’s perfect, so no relationship is neither. You have to know yourself that the person you are with is truly worth fighting for, no matter what happens. Learn how to give and take. We realized some people never want to lose in a conversation, so the other part tend to just let them win in order to make them happy, but that can’t always be the case. If you know that you’re wrong, just accept it, lower your pride, and say you are sorry. Learn also to accept differences and each others flaws.
Make sure to keep in touch the way you did when everything was new, like texting a goodmorning, good afternoon, and good evening everyday, calling each, exchanging long sweet text messages, writing notes and letters to one another, etc. Continue doing this even if this becomes a routine, don’t get bored of it, you can add or improve upon it so you’ll never get tired. Don’t let the “spark” die between the two of you.
Trust is also important. If you really love your partner, you must trust him. Of course, we know that some are always suspecting of their guys or girls; they are formulating situations in their mind and sometimes become overly jealous and controlling. Before suspecting and accusing your partner, know first what really happened and talk to them. Remember that accusing and always suspecting your partner for cheating can cause serious problems in your relationship. Respect each other’s feelings and decisions is also very important. Respect each other, and never make your partner feel like he or she has to compete with anyone else for your attention. Never make them feel alone, especially when you’re there.
Just continue to help and inspire each other and improve on what you have started. Don’t let the spark die and always stay in love with one another
We wish FS and Tracy all the best!
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