Love Happens #2 – “I’d walk to you if I had no other way.”

“I’d walk to you if I had no other way.” – ‘Hey There Delilah’ by the Plain White T’s

“We met on Facebook in 2010, and were in a long-distance relationship for 1.5 years. Because he is from Paris, and me Dubai, there were issues with VISA but we didn’t let that stop us. We both decided to relocate so we could be together, and decided that Singapore was the place. In 2011, we got married here and we’re as happy as can be…”

“We met on Facebook in 2010, and were in a long-distance relationship for 1.5 years.
Because he is from Paris, and me Dubai, there were issues with VISA but we didn’t let that stop us.
We both decided to relocate so we could be together, and decided that Singapore was the place.
In 2011, we got married here and we’re as happy as can be…”

Featured in this photograph is Joy and Jerome, a couple whose story is testament to how Long-Distance Relationships (LDRs) do not just work out in the fictional world of Hollywood movies. For them to have gotten to the married life they share today, it took much effort, patience and understanding. In LDRs, you cannot always demand your loved one be there when you want it. In my opinion, the challenges faced can simply be summarized by Simple Plan’s ‘Jet Lag’

“You say good morning when it’s midnight,

going out of my head, alone in this bed.

I wake up to your sunset and it’s driving me mad,

I miss you so bad.”

But let’s not be all sulky and pessimistic. Adopting a less-taken perspective on LDRs, we see how LDRs really aren’t that different from other relationships. We’ve already established that LDRs require effort, patience and understanding – but don’t all relationships do? And that applies not just between lovers, but between friends and within families too. So my point is, hang in there. Yes, it is tough, but don’t forget that with every relationship comes its unique set of problems, long-distance or not. Always make the best out of every situation and remember that physical separation should never mean emotional distance.

Here, I’d like to take the opportunity to share with you one of my favourite movies that has a unique take on LDRs. In this movie, distance isn’t what separates the lovers, but time. Starring Sandra Bullock and Keanu Reeves, ‘The Lake House’ is one movie that you could watch with your loved one, snuggled up on the sofa for a cozy stay-in Movie Night together this cool December. (: For those of you who are in LDRs, I recommend a Movie-Night, where you two hit the ‘play’ button at the same time. Come across an interesting scene that you just have to comment on? Share it with your partner over chat. If you happen to be a LoveByte user, you could record this as your first (and truly memorable) long-distance movie date in the Timeline! (: (I love how the Timeline serves as a bank of memories, it makes writing anniversary cards so much easier!)

Of course, this movie is just a recommendation of mine, but there are so many other awesome movies out there that will do just fine too. (: This Christmas season, maybe stop to reflect on whether your other half has always been giving in to you – like watching movies which he/she does not enjoy as much, but he/she watched them anyway because he/she just wants to make you happy? Well, if this sounds familiar, then you’re one lucky girl/guy. (: Why not watch something else for a change, another genre perhaps, that you know your other half would love? Here’s when you realize that enjoying the movie isn’t about the movie itself – it’s about the shared experience. (: And really, isn’t that what love is about?

So, all of you out there in LDRs, chin up and embrace the experience because getting through tough times like this can only serve to strengthen your relationship. All the best to our audience in LDRs reading this! Keep Joy and Jerome in mind – and one day soon, you’d get there. (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

PS: LoveByte wishes Joy and Jerome a wonderful Christmas season of bountiful joy, warmth and love! <3