Love Happens #11 – “You go girl!”

“I sat on the kerb, and she drives past, Sees me, turns around at a crossroad, stops, gets down and talks to me, “I know you don’t I?” “So you were the one staring at me in there!” And here we are, married for 40 years now.”

“I sat on the kerb, and she drives past,
Sees me, turns around at a crossroad,
stops, gets down and talks to me,
“I know you, don’t I?”
“So you were the one staring at me in there!”
And here we are, married for 40 years now.” 

It’s not easy making the first move. And for ladies, there’s this social stigma we face that can really deters us from making the first move. But does that mean that we should always take up a passive role? After all don’t we seek to be in egalitarian relationships in which our partner respects us and our views, ideas and decisions? If that is so, it doesn’t really make sense now for women to permanently adopt a passive role when it comes to the chase now does it?

If you already have that special someone in mind, probably this really nice guy you know from one of your classes but never really got to talk to, maybe it’s time you make the first move. (: Get to know the guy. After all, making a first move is the first step to any friendship and relationship. Making the first move doesn’t necessarily mean you’re romantically attracted to the person, it just means you want to get to know the person more. Quit over-thinking things! (:

Of course I’m not condemning passive ladies! (: Babes, I just want you to feel comfortable and if that means asserting your position as a strong woman who dares to pursue love, undeterred by others, then by all means, do it. Also, we often think that women shouldn’t make the first move, but really, it’s not as rare a phenomenon as you think it might be. Many men also respect and admire women who dare make the first move because it establishes an image of these ladies as independent, mature and capable. (; Rejection may come, yes. But it’s never game over! Pick yourself up and know that someone awesome out there is coming your way. (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

PS: Dear Tony and Hermanna, we wish you a Christmas filled with love! (: Thanks for sharing your stories and although it’s not all published here, we’re so glad to have spent time hearing about your love. (: <3 It’s been a great pleasure! (: