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LoveByte 14 Day Challenge

love challengeWhat’s the secret to a loving relationship?

There is no secret. It’s effort :) It might be helping out your partner with an errand, writing a love note to let them know they are loved, or doing a simple activity together. At LoveByte, it’s about keeping the romance alive and showing appreciation for each other.

We’re inviting couples to embark on our 14 day challenge (yes, let’s start with 14..). Do it for yourself and feel for yourself how your relationship has improved by the end of the fortnight.

Here’s how it works: The both of you can start the challenge anytime. For the next 14 days, check off an item from the suggested list of things to do every day. You don’t have to do them in order; simply choose to do what fits your schedule, as long as you complete one each day! It’s OK to skip a day, but remember to make up for it!

  1. Share a sweet memory from childhood.
  2. Dedicate a meaningful song for each other.
  3. Share an ice cream.
  4. Plant 15 kisses on different parts of each other’s body.
  5. Experiment a new recipe together.
  6. Give each other a compliment and mean it.
  7. Snap a picture of yourself with a pose your partner picks!
  8. Go for an exercise together. eg. yoga, running
  9. Add 3 things to your shared To-Do List on LoveByte.
  10. Turn on some music and slow dance.
  11. Spend a fruitful day at the animal shelter.
  12. Have a picnic in your own living room.
  13. Try on new clothing styles and model for each other at the mall.
  14. Write a letter to each other to open only 1 year later!

Feel free to print the below and paste it somewhere visible. Keep track of the progress by using the hashtag #lovebyte14daysand share it with us on Instagram! Get started now!

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Stay loving,
LoveByte Cupid <3

LoveByte is a mobile app for couples to record their happy memories to form a meaningful, love journal containing favourite photos, notes and dates. Get it on iOS/Android: http://lovebyte.us/getapp.

Relationship No-no: ‘Sorry I’m busy working’

For the most of us living in cities, working overtime is not uncommon; but that doesn’t mean that it should the norm. We find ourselves getting caught in the daily hustle of life and end up feeling stressed, which may cause strains in the relationship.

Here’s the golden rule: Always make time for your partner. Schedule time to plan for a romantic vacation if you have to. Don’t let work take over your relationships. The infographic below compares how overworked people in various cities are and some survey results on its impact.


Source: TheRomanticHoliday

7 Grounds Rules for Couple Conflict

Conflict is a normal part of any healthy relationship. Therefore we have gathered seven ground rules for couple conflict so you can easier tackle the issues when dealing with a disagreement, big or small.

1. Don’t criticize your partner’s parents or friends

Whether they are your partners parents or their dearest friends, make sure to never speak ill of them since this is prompting your partner to become defensive. You know yourself how it is, your family and friends can tick you off from time to time, but they are still precious to you. Respect that, and try understand your partner instead and emphasize with them when they are venting to you.

2. Suspend judgment

Never start conflict with “What kind of person…?” This only creates a need for the other part to defend themselves or whoever you are referring to, instead of understanding you.

3. Do it sober

Avoid conflict when alcohol has been consumed. Alcohol affects your judgement and emotions and creates a tunnel vision which means you aren’t taking in other factors so you can understand your partner and try and work on a solution.

4. Be specific

Get your request down to 10 words or less. The fewer words, the better the chance of the other person taking the request on board. For instance, “I feel devalued when you criticise me. Please don’t.”

5. Don’t justify

Don’t say, “Criticising me makes me look stupid in the eyes of other people.” The other person can deflect: “There you go again, always worrying about what other people think.” Every word beyond the expressed need can and will be used as a boomerang.

6. Kiss and Make Up

By kiss and make up you’ll let go of being angry and go back to becoming friends and lovers again. Say you are sorry and acknowledge your partners feelings without justifying or defending your point. Give them a kiss and a hug and you’ll be able to move on from the fight without feelings of resentment or hurt.

7. Have a change of subject ready

This indicates the topic is closed, everyone is okay and now it’s time to get on with life. State your need. Short pause. Then, “So, which movie do you want to watch tonight?”

/ LoveByte Cupid

So, You’re Moving in Together: Tips for Cohabiting Couples

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If you’re about to move in with your significant other, you can breathe a sigh of relief. In a Rent.com survey of 1,000 cohabiting couples, almost half said moving in together enabled them to spend more time with their loved one, and an endearing 32 percent said living together helped them realize they found “the one.” But before you plunge into the ups and downs of living together, you first have to tackle the move.

Consolidation Compromise

Consolidating your belongings will be one of the easiest adjustments you’ll have to make during this relationship changer. Determine which pieces of furniture don’t have a future at your new home. If space is limited, you’ll both need to compromise on what to take, sell or donate, which can feel like a risk for the person giving away his or her possessions. Sure, breaking up and moving out without a bed is a sensible concern, but moving in together is a risk in and of itself. Losing your bed or sofa is a material casualty and most likely, the least of your worries if you end up separating. Choose the best belongings for your new living arrangement as a couple. If you can’t part ways with that beloved coffee table, keep it in storage as insurance until you feel more stable in your relationship.

Declutter & De-Own

In any new relationship, you need to ditch the emotional baggage. Similarly, as you move in together, you should also throw away the extra baggage, literally. Reducing how much you own will energize and refresh both of you and help create a positive shared living space. Evaluate your belongings and free your life of purposeless possessions that inhibit healthy lifestyle changes and growth.

Permanently de-owning your meaningless possessions helps eliminate the desire to have more to feel fulfilled. Once you can remove yourself from the desire to possess more—once you can separate happiness from owning things—you’ll create opportunity for significant change to take place, shares Josh Becker, bestselling author of “Simplify & Clutterfree with Kids” and contributor for Becoming Minimalist. A more materialistically simplistic life reduces stress and creates serenity in your surroundings. Replacing stress with serenity will also help you maintain a healthy romantic relationship under one roof.

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Carrying heavy furniture down multiple flights of stairs can strain any relationship, even if it’s just for the day. Make moving in together an exciting experience that isn’t tainted with arguments and exasperated sighs. Put the weight of moving furniture and boxes onto the shoulders of a professional moving company. With a little research, it doesn’t have to burn a hole through your wallet.

Collect a list of local moving companies and ask for a binding estimate (also known as firm binding or guaranteed price). A binding estimate will be the exact cost you’ll pay for moving services. Expected final charges won’t increase or decrease, whether or not the final weight is greater or lesser than expected. Keep in mind, an in-house estimate is typically a requisite to receive a binding estimate. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for special discounts and references. Check the company’s website for online reviews and ensure movers are licensed and insured. Good movers can even provide you with a list of packing tips.

New Home Essentials

Your new home will need a few essentials and a gender-neutral design theme (the pink peony shower curtain and Audrey Hepburn framed portrait will probably need to be replaced by a muted gray shower curtain and framed geometric artwork). Pack an “essentials” box that includes toilet paper, a shower curtain, shampoo, conditioner, soap, toothbrush, floss, toothpaste, a change of clothing and towel for each of you and garbage bags. Window blinds are a top priority for privacy, and make sure you pack your bedding in an easily accessible spot. Finally, don’t forget pet food and pet dishes, if needed.

Although moving can be an expensive change, set aside extra money to buy a few new items together, such as a fun kitchen gadget, new comforter to brighten up the bedroom or wall art to liven bare wall space.