Category Archives: Love Happens

Facebook Competition – Win a Necklace!

We hope you haven’t missed our Facebook competition where you have the chance to win a lovely necklace from M+Y STEEL! You can check out the necklace in our Giftstore. Click here!

The competition ends on monday 17th of March so there’s still plenty of time to join in!

How to win:

Comment on our Facebook post what Love Means to You, share it with your friends and get those likes to win. The comment with most likes wins! Good luck! LoveIsCampaign

 

Don’t forget to check out our other M+Y STEEL items in our GiftStore. We have plenty of jewelry for that special love of yours, whether it is for an upcoming anniversary or just to say I Love You. 

/ LoveByte Cupid

Love Happens #16 – “Surprise and Wonder”

“So, what’s the most memorable thing you have done for each other?” “She knew I wanted to go to the Sentosa MegaZip…” “so on his birthday I blindfolded him and led him there. Oh and to celebrate Christmas, he bought me red roses and we had a romantic dinner”

“So, what’s the most memorable thing you have done for each other?”
“She knew I wanted to go to the Sentosa MegaZip…”
“So on his birthday I blindfolded him and led him there.
Oh and to celebrate Christmas,
He bought me red roses and we had a romantic dinner”

Surprises are nice. I don’t know how common this is, but I’ve got to admit that as much as I claim not to be into surprises and that I don’t fancy flowers and gifts, in reality, a surprise never fails to charm me and make my day. Receiving/giving gifts isn’t my love language but being on the receiving end of a surprise just melts my heart. (: For me, it’s not about the material value of flowers or gifts that matter, but the symbolism of it all. For someone to give his/her partner little surprise treats, it requires at least the following

1. he/she was thinking about their partner while getting the gift,

2. he/she pays attention to his/her partner’s taste just so he/she could get a “right” gift,

3. some planning to ensure the surprise remains a surprise,

4. effort and money spent just so he/she could achieve his/her ultimate goal,

5. and that his/her ultimate goal is to make his/her partner happy. (:

One small gesture with a surprise gift (or a random and simple handwritten card does the trick too!) can tell a lot. I believe there are people out there who think like me too and if you suspect your partner may be one of them, hesitate no more and spring a random surprise on him/her soon! (: Take the opportunity now that it’s the Christmas season to spring a lovely surprise on your partner.

And keep in mind that  surprises that do not happen on “eventful” days can actually make better surprises because your partner wouldn’t be expecting it at all. (: Of course, don’t overdo it too. Keep it a surprise. Anything overdone would lose its effect.

Having said the above, you should pay attention to how surprises are symbolically important and that means that you don’t have to always burn a hole in that pocket of yours.

“Even in the familiar there can be surprise and wonder.”
― Tierney Gearon

You can always surprise him/her in the little ways. Like giving him/her a kiss on the forehead and tell them how beautiful you think they are, and how much they matter to you. Guys, have fun and role-play at times, like getting the door for her and dramatically usher her in and make her feel like a princess. Girls, propose to watch the game with him even if it isn’t your thing or play video games with him for once.

Remember that it is always up to you to keep that burning passion alive. (: have a joyous Christmas! (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #15 – “Solvent of all problems”

“Communication is the solvent of all problems and is the foundation for personal development.”
— Peter Shepherd

“She’s always feeding me, taking good care of me.” “He’s patient, tolerant and forgiving - and that’s hard to find.”

“She’s always feeding me, taking good care of me.”
“He’s patient, tolerant and forgiving – and that’s hard to find.”

It has been really comforting to hear the responses of many couples throughout this campaign. A common question we ask is “what do you like most about him/her?” and all the time, people reply with character and personality traits which they admire and appreciate, beyond skin-deep answers. It’s always a joy to see how their partner’s face lights up when being openly praised by their loved one. The sweet smiles that come after, a playful nudge, a bashful giggle or when they hold each other closer as they walk away from us after the interview just melts my heart all the time. (:

Patience, tolerance and forgiveness – perhaps the key elements required for any couple to emerge from misunderstandings stronger and more loving than before. Let’s face it, we’re all human and we have times of disagreement. In such times when we don’t see eye to eye, we may confront each other with hostility, we lose self-awareness and say hurtful things – things we don’t really mean. But it’s too late, we’ve said it. And before we know it, we’ve started a fight. I bet there are definitely times when this has happened to you, because it has for me. 

It’s a shame when a simple misunderstanding leads to a full-blown war. Times we could have spent loving each other, we spend on hurting each other. And when couples quarrel, two people are hurt. It doesn’t matter who started it and whose fault it is, fact is, we’ve hurt each other. Really, what’s the point of fighting and hurting?

Communication is vital to any healthy and strong relationship. Quarreling is not the kind of communication I’m referring to. Instead, I’m talking about a calm discussion where both parties share their perspectives on the issue and where they want to go from there. Talk not only about the issue at hand, but how you both could and would handle this situation should it come up again. I can’t tell you how to best solve your problems, but all I can do is urge all of you to always to consider your partner’s perspective in every conflict. Through doing so, you would be handling the issue maturely and not insist on your position without even trying to see things from another angle. Also, if you constantly do this, you get to understand your partner better, in how he/she thinks, how he/she handles conflicts, etc. Communication should always be constructive and positive and it should never be a competition to prove that one is “right” or on a moral high-ground.

Yes, couples quarrel. And I believe so have all the couples we’ve met and talk to so far. But we all move on from conflicts, and we become smarter and stronger than before. Not only would you grow as an individual, you grow as a couple, and slowly you’d be ready to take on the world together.

Stay strong together! (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #14 – “Friendship, is very comforting.”

“Friendship,” said Christopher Robin, “is a very comforting thing to have.”
― A.A. Milne

“It’s his birthday surprise!” “So who’s idea was it?” “The girls thought of it.”

“It’s his birthday surprise!”
“So who’s idea was it?”
“The girls thought of it.”

The LoveByte team was walking around scouting for couples when we were approached to give this blindfolded boy here a hug for his birthday. This made us really interested to know what these youth had up their sleeve so we interviewed them and decided to add a photo of them as part of our campaign. Turns out, this is a birthday surprise they sprang on their dear friend here. It is obvious that much planning and preparation had been done just so they could make his birthday a memorable one. (:

This got me thinking about how love takes on many forms and guises. What could have been seen by some as a prank on this boy here is actually a display of their strong friendship and camaraderie. They took photos while this boy received hugs from total strangers and I thought – wow, this youth are helping their friend feel loved, one hug at a time. (: These friends are awesome aren’t they?

I’ve been really lucky and am grateful to have had collected many precious gems in life, these gems I call ‘friends’. They are my light in darkness and they make me feel good about myself when I’m down. They also spend time, effort and energy just to keep me going strong, come what may. Like family, friends provide an emotional support that has contributed much to the happy soul I have today. (: I’ve been enriched by their love, and I believe you can totally relate to what I’m saying, with a few friends of your own that just flashed across your mind as you read this.

This Christmas, take time to meet up with these gems. As I’ve mentioned in an earlier post, friends are the often-neglected people in your life when you get into a romantic relationship. Don’t make the mistake of neglecting either your partner or friends. Strike a good balance and spend your time wisely. (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #13 – “Don’t Stop Believing”

“We met each other many times when we went prawning. But we never talked. I finally approached her after 4 months. And we’ve been together for three years.”

“We met each other many times when we went prawning.
But we never talked.
I finally approached her after 4 months.
And we’ve been together for three years.”

It’s magical how we meet that special someone. It can be that we fall in love with our friend of many years, or with that unlikely and unsuspecting girl/guy we see sitting at the same table every lunch break, or that sparks fly from over a distance – like what happened here for our featured lovebirds. (:

Love is unpredictable, and it can strike you when you least expect it. I’ve read somewhere before that it is precisely because we do not expect it, that we ‘fall‘ in love. When we fall, we don’t see it coming. We may end up hurt or we may find a precious gem on the ground, and then we pick ourselves up, feeling either wounded, satisfied or both. In life we can fall many times, and always, we pick ourselves up. If things turn out well, our love progresses into a long-term relationship. Often, love transforms from one form to another, and it is characterized decreasingly by romance and passion, and increasingly by commitment and mutual responsibility. A change in form doesn’t mean any dilution of love. That’s a common – and misguided – view. Love merely matures and grows – and it’s the same with people. We all grow out of our carefree childhood into adults with obligations and responsibilities. Allow love to take it’s natural course, let it grow healthily and embrace that.

Sometimes, things don’t turn out as well. We may feel hurt, let down, betrayed and even, angry. But life goes on. We pick ourselves up. Wounds may take from days to years to heal. At times, they even leave scars. We can be careful, watch where we walk, pace steadily and cautiously to prevent falling. But can we ever be sure that we will never fall again? No. Hence, for those of you out there who have ever been hurt in love, don’t stop believing that there is a special someone out there just for you. Wait patiently and he/she will come your way really soon. (: Perhaps what I’m trying to say is that whenever we fall (in love) we learn. Don’t give up on love, because it hasn’t given up on you.

See how beautiful it worked out for our lovebirds? What began as chance encounters progressed to them being ‘the one’ for each other. (‘: it may just happen to you. (:

Keep believing and always embrace love when it comes! (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #12 – “Anywhere is Paradise”

“Cause’ anywhere is paradise when you’re with the one you love” – Stefan Andersson in ‘Anywhere is Paradise’.

“We were both on overseas exchange in Europe, He was at Brussels, and I, Birmingham. He came over to look for me. We got together that December and toured Europe together!"

“We were both on overseas exchange in Europe,
He was at Brussels, and I, Birmingham.
He came over to look for me.
We got together that December and toured Europe together!”

I melted inside when I heard they toured Europe together! Travelling together with that special someone sure is nice (it’s really nice!) You get to experience the wonderful sights and sounds, meet hospitable locals and learn more about the unique cultures of our world just like any other vacation but you get to do so with someone who you are comfortable with and happy to be around. (:

Travelling together bonds you two with a unique experience shared between the two of you and no one else. And that’s the private and special bond we all look for with our special someone isn’t it? Memories belonging to just the two of you, and no one else. A little shout-out here to our LoveByte users – go ahead and record it all in your Timeline, from your first step in a foreign airport to visiting a museum, first village tour/stay and even your first foreign dessert/beer together! (:

By travelling together you also become mutually dependent, and never were you two this dependent on each other. Take care of each other’s needs, make each other happy and learn from each other. Broaden your perspectives and make your journey together an enriching one for the mind and for the soul. Consider the non-conventional travel itinerary – instead of shopping, go for local cooking/yoga classes together, visit villages and interact with the locals to learn more about the lived everyday culture there. (: Learn together and you will grow together – as individuals and as couples.

Picking a “right” destination is important. Every country, state, city/town/village can bring you and your partner an experience unlike any other. No place is superior to others, hence I’m not recommending any destinations in particular. Really, it’s all a matter of individual taste and preference. There’s always something for everyone. Hence, a “right” destination is dependent on both your partner’s and your preference and how comfortable you see both of you settling there for a few days or weeks. Travelling is about personal growth and it’s a life-enriching experience. Through travelling, you and your partner are able to grow together, learn more about each other’s tastes, preferences, and spend awesome time together. For what’s left of this Christmas season/vacation, consider going for a trip! (Even a day trip to the neighbouring state or country can be super awesome!)

Have fun! (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #11 – “You go girl!”

“I sat on the kerb, and she drives past, Sees me, turns around at a crossroad, stops, gets down and talks to me, “I know you don’t I?” “So you were the one staring at me in there!” And here we are, married for 40 years now.”

“I sat on the kerb, and she drives past,
Sees me, turns around at a crossroad,
stops, gets down and talks to me,
“I know you, don’t I?”
“So you were the one staring at me in there!”
And here we are, married for 40 years now.” 

It’s not easy making the first move. And for ladies, there’s this social stigma we face that can really deters us from making the first move. But does that mean that we should always take up a passive role? After all don’t we seek to be in egalitarian relationships in which our partner respects us and our views, ideas and decisions? If that is so, it doesn’t really make sense now for women to permanently adopt a passive role when it comes to the chase now does it?

If you already have that special someone in mind, probably this really nice guy you know from one of your classes but never really got to talk to, maybe it’s time you make the first move. (: Get to know the guy. After all, making a first move is the first step to any friendship and relationship. Making the first move doesn’t necessarily mean you’re romantically attracted to the person, it just means you want to get to know the person more. Quit over-thinking things! (:

Of course I’m not condemning passive ladies! (: Babes, I just want you to feel comfortable and if that means asserting your position as a strong woman who dares to pursue love, undeterred by others, then by all means, do it. Also, we often think that women shouldn’t make the first move, but really, it’s not as rare a phenomenon as you think it might be. Many men also respect and admire women who dare make the first move because it establishes an image of these ladies as independent, mature and capable. (; Rejection may come, yes. But it’s never game over! Pick yourself up and know that someone awesome out there is coming your way. (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

PS: Dear Tony and Hermanna, we wish you a Christmas filled with love! (: Thanks for sharing your stories and although it’s not all published here, we’re so glad to have spent time hearing about your love. (: <3 It’s been a great pleasure! (:

Love Happens #10 – “Charming Garderners”

Here’s a wonderful quote by Marcel Proust,

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”

“It’s been almost 40 years. We’ve been married since 1972. We have 3 daughters, and we’re here to visit our son who works here. He just completed school.” "What's your secret for a happy marriage?" "Simple… We just take care of each others’ needs.  He keeps me happy. I keep him happy. So we are happy!" Before we parted, they smiled and thanked us for the picture. “Come to New Delhi one day!”

“It’s been almost 40 years. We’ve been married since 1972. We have 3 daughters, and we’re here to visit our son who works here. He just completed school.”
“What’s your secret for a happy marriage?”
“Simple… We just take care of each others’ needs.
He keeps me happy. I keep him happy.
So we are happy!”
Before we parted, they smiled and thanked us for the picture.
“Come to New Delhi one day!”

It’s not easy to be happily together for decades but with effort, and love, it’s possible. Happiness is key to a relationship and life itself. Happiness allows our souls to achieve satisfaction and more importantly, fulfillment. Other than happiness, another important lesson from this couple is that on dependence and support. I found this lovely couple’s simple philosophy extremely inspirational – they are dependent on each other and allow themselves to trust in the other to make them happy, to care and to love them.

When people fall in love, they give their heart to their partner, expecting them to handle it with care, because it’s fragile. When someone gives his/her heart to you, treat it with both sensitivity and love. Treasure it and be grateful that you’ve been chosen among a sea of thousands, millions and billions to own his/her heart.

Mutual dependence, encouragement and support are characteristics of stable, healthy and strong relationships. It is in this dependency that we feel a powerful bond with our partner, shared with no other, making the relationship a really special and unique one. And that bond is what constitutes ‘love’.

Love is a beautiful thing, so celebrate it this Christmas. (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #9 – “It’s our little secret”

“What’s the secret to your loving relationship?” “It wouldn’t be a secret if I told you!!!”

“What’s the secret to your loving relationship?”
“It wouldn’t be a secret if I told you!!!”

Married with children for years now, this couple playfully rejected sharing their secret recipe to a loving relationship. But it isn’t difficult to guess the key ingredients to the broth – effort, patience, compassion, selflessness and commitment.

It’s not easy being together with someone, starting a family and building a life together. But they did it and so have many other couples. It sure is difficult to keep that passion burning after being together for years. But with a little conscious effort by both parties, a long-term relationship can enjoy it’s puppy-love years all over again

This Christmas season, spend time with family but not forget that your spouse and you deserve some romantic time alone too. You don’t have to go for a candle-lit dinner, sip red wine and light candles for romance. A simple day out at a memorable restaurant (e.g. where you had your first date, where the proposal was, etc.) will be nice. Get your spouse a nice gift or a bouquet of flowers, couple that with a hand-written card, and do include a heartfelt message to thank him/her for their love, care and guidance all these years. (: remember, no one outgrows romance. What may seem mushy and cheesy, can actually be heartfelt and sincere. Keep that passion burning and re-light that burning desire if it seemed to be fading after all these years.

Stay loving!

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3

Love Happens #8 – “Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies”

“Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies.” – Aristotle

Or, as I prefer, a few bodies. (:

“She’s a great dancer.” “She’s a great singer. And also weird. In a good way.” *deadly stare*

“She’s a great dancer.”
“She’s a great singer. And also weird. In a good way.”
*deadly stare*

Friends are hard to come by. We gain many friends over the years, of different degrees of closeness, different personalities and we share different experiences with them. We learn over time who are the “true” ones to really treasure, keep close and be thankful for – the ones who stay with us and love us for who we are, who accept our flaws, and appreciate our talents.

It is easy for us to take for granted our circle of friends, and many of us are guilty of ditching friends just to spend more time with our other half. Here, I can’t stress any further how important it is to strike a healthy balance. You must always have sufficient time to yourself, for your partner and also, for friends. They’ve been there when you were down and when things are going well for you, be careful not to forget how they had loved you and cared for you. (: It is often that we get so absorbed with our own lives, busy schedules and everything else, that when a friend is in need we may fail to recognize it. Take that effort, to prevent this. (: Be there for your friend like he/she has been for you. They’re worth it.

This festive season, take time to meet up with those who matter. Have fun catching up! (:

With Christmas Love,

LoveByte Cupid :3