Monthly Archives: April 2014


6 Reasons Why Couples Should Travel Together

Instead of cracking your head on what to buy when giving a gift, consider saving the money to fund a vacation. It doesn’t have to be expensive, you can stick to budget travel destinations for a short getaway.

Travelling as a couple surely sounds exciting and fun. We won’t paint you a rosy picture of a perfect holiday, but there might be frustrating situations too. (don’t say we didn’t warn you!) Overall, the good still outweighs the bad and it’s a great opportunity to put your relationship to the test as you understand each other on a deeper level and increase intimacy.

couple travel Picture: TheAge

1. Split the responsibilities and compromise

Planning and preparation before the trip and crafting the itinerary will require some give-and-take. With limited time for the holiday, both parties may have different places they want to see. One may be seeking an adventure, while another just prefers to chill at the beach. You often will each have to give up a few things to settle on a compromise.

There might be travel documents or items that need to be prepared beforehand. It’s a good idea to divide the tasks to get things done in a quicker manner.

love locks Source: Pinterest

2. Create a shared memory

A ‘couply’ thing to do is to lock your love at one of these love locks around the world that’s bound to be a unforgettable experience. Nothing is more romantic than showing your infinite love and commitment to your partner to reassure them they are your only one.

But any destination can be a “romantic holiday destination”. Whether it’s sipping coffee at a quaint cafe in town, sitting on a beach watching the sunset, the only thing that matters is who you’re sharing the moment with. These will make great stories as you look back and relive these memories together later.

couple travel

3. Experience the world together

You can read about the history of the world all you like, but to truly understand it, you have to travel to the places history has touched. Travelling is a form of learning and also one of the most rewarding experiences. To make sure that these never get forgotten, take many pictures and upload them into your LoveByte album that you’ll share and cherish – one for each holiday!

couple love map Source: Pinterest

4. Discover their habits

After spending several nights and days together outside home, it’s likely that you’re bound to witness some of their traits that are ‘not that great’. Maybe they are crankiest in the morning, or become very irritable after a long, tiring walk. It may be stressful.

Perhaps you’ll be privy to all those things the other person may have tried (maybe successfully) to hide from you before: she doesn’t look quite the same without her makeup on, or maybe he releases gas throughout the night. You will need to figure out how you deal with them.

5. Reignite the spark with something new

It’s all about taking time off the mundane routine and reconnecting with each other. Ideally without distraction – chuck away the mobile phones. On a holiday you get to try new activities that you usually don’t do, eg. ride a hot air balloon or diving into the deep ocean.

Source: Murad Osmann

6. See if you’re compatible

See how street smart your partner is and how they would react to situations impromptu and under pressure. Or how considerate your partner is about your feelings, or only think for themselves. Sometimes it’s the little things that matter the most. It could be tiny actions like helping to carry a bag after a long day, or cracking a joke to a situation.

After the entire trip, the experience should be a fulfilling and meaningful activity. Share your thoughts about the holiday with each other and see if you’ll be ready to take your relationship to the next level.

We think that a couple that travels together, stays together. Don’t you agree?

Stay loving! LoveByte Cupid <3

How Technology Can Help Your Relationship

Technology can be irritating and hurtful to the relationship when your significant other is de-prioritized due to it. Complains about significant other’s texting during dinner or date night can be a big downer in a relationship, but all technology isn’t bad and it can actually help you improve your relationship and bring you closer.

A study conducted by the Pew Internet & American Life Project in 2013 showed that 10 % of people in an relationship said that internet had a major impact on their relationship, and 74 % of them said that it had a positive impact.

Here’s how you can ensure technology has a positive impact on your relationship and will bring you and your loved one even closer. 

Technology helps you stay connected and share things in your everyday life. It is the little things that bring you and your loved one close. Without thinking about it, you build your relationship by small things, such as noting that the weather today is really beautiful, mumbling a wow or laughing over something you are reading in the newspaper, and your loved one simply taking a moment to ask you what it was about or looking out the window and agreeing with you that it is a beautiful day. With technology you can easily share these little events and thoughts of your everyday life and it is great for staying connected in these simple, sometimes very subtle ways. A quick text to share events of the day can make your partner feel included. Even just texting a small smiley face can make your partners day and know that you are thinking about them.

Couples in a relationship often ask about each other day, how it was and what they have planned for the day, and then follows up later to ask how it went. This makes your partner feel that they are cared about and loved. A simple text message to wish your partner good luck before an important presentation or to ask how their day went, ensures that you keep this bond and care for each other, even when not there.

Remembering birthdays and important dates makes you feel loved (even if you might not care about celebrating). With technology it is easy to mark important dates and events. In your LoveByte calendar you can easily create an alarm to ensure that you remember your loved one’s birthday, your anniversary, and other important dates. You can even remind yourself to buy a card or gift ahead of time.

Technology can help you resolve fights.  Not all of us are ready to listen to what our partner has to say, and may not be able to react in a calm way when confronted with a problem. This can be due to previous experiences or simply the fact that we are very emotional people.

Picture from Jupiter Media

Here a chat can actually help you. To send a note, or a long message to your partner explaining your feelings and emotions could help you get the message through easier and without having to end up in that screaming and crying session. Instead you can write down your thougts and let your partner read it and think about it for a while and let the information sink in, before you start talking. This way all those instant emotions that may not always help you sort it out have already passed and you are ready to discuss the problem and also have a greater understanding of where the other person is coming from.

Writing forces you to think about your message. Whilst you are writing your message, you also have to think about what you are actually saying and sometimes it can actually stop you from saying unnecessary hurtful things because you are upset. You often realize while writing that what you are saying and or feeling might actually be very over exaggurated. Writing forces you to think about your message and this is a good thing, as it forces you to think about all the why’s and how’s and how the message might be perceived and allows you to calm down and sort out all those emotions and thoughts before starting the conversation.

Technology can also be used as an aid to help you express yourself better. Not all of us are great at expressing our emotions and fears out loud, and therefore a text message or a note can actually help us do that as we don’t have to say it out loud and face our partner right away. This approach will gice you courage to do so next time you meet as you have already started the conversation. You are also giving your partner some time to let the information sink in so that once you meet and start talking in person you are already halfway through and have a good start to continue building everything on.

Technology removes obstacles such as time and geographical differences and you can easily share things with each other throughout the day. This creates a sense of being together even when apart which is very important for a relationship to grow stronger. It also enables you to get right to the point once you meet so you can start conversating right away on the events that has been going on during the day instead of having that mandatory small talk. This also helps you understand better if your partner might have had a rough day so you can perhaps prepare something special for them once you meet and be prepared to support and comfort them.

Photo from Pinterest

Seeing your partner through the day keeps your love strong. When looking at people’s desks at work or around their homes you are likely to see pictures and other reminders of their loved ones. These things help them to always feel close and to help them get through those rough days. A study has shown that just by looking at a photo of a loved one can ease physical pain and help patients at a hospital recover faster. Using LoveByte ensures that you have all your photos and sweet love notes easy at hand so you can see your partner and remember all your good times, wherever you are. Using your phone and computer to have photos of your loved ones as screen savers, pictures in your cell phone, and video clips from fun times together are all modern and great ways to stay close.

/ LoveByte Cupid


What Healthy Couples Do to Keep the Relationship Alive

Falling in love is easy but to keep the relationship alive once that first flame has lost its power is hard. Life continues to spin around us and it is easy to lose track and to forget and take for granted the most important thing in our life: love.

It won’t sort itself out on its own and there are many things and mistakes we do in our relationships, but instead of focusing on what not to do, we have gathered some secrets on what healthy couples do to keep the relationship alive.

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1. Arguments stay between the couple

Healthy couples never post negatively about each other on social media, nor start discussing around with friends trying to get other people on their side in an argument. Healthy couples understand that in a relationship there is only one side. The response is to talk it out with your loved one and sort it out between the two of you.

2. The relationship is priority number one

Healthy relationships always put the relationship first and makes it a priority since there is always going to be things pulling you in every direction and demanding your time and attention. The thing that defines healthy couples is that they never let the these things affect their relationship. The areas which will get less time and attention are never their loved one. Healthy couples know that you only have one chance to make it work with the love of your life.

3. Spend quality time together (without technology!)

Healthy couples understand the importance of quality time together, without technology, and therefore make sure to spend quality time together when the phones and tv are turned off.

4. Take breaks from disagreements

Couples who are in a healthy relationship know when to take a break from a disagreement and also when to return together to find a resolution. Punishing each other with the silent treatment or withholding affection is not a healthy solution to resolve a disagreement.

5. Talk about everything

There are no off-limit subjects. Couples who are able to talk about everything, even the hard subjects grow together and form healthy bonds and are a sign of intimacy in the relationship. It is inevitable that you will face hard times as a couple, and to work through them together is important to keep a healthy relationship.

6. Know their limits 

In a relationship it is important that each partner knows their own limits and do not say yes to everything and always agree. If one partner is tired and exhausted and the other wants to go out, there is no point in saying yes to please your partner just to end up being mad at the end of the night because you actually did not want to go in the first place. Healthy couples know their limits and know when to say no, and when to ask for help.

7. Forgive and ask for forgiveness

In a relationship you are bound to hurt each other from time to time and do things without the intention of hurting your loved one. The important part here is to learn how to deal with it and forgive easily and to be able to say I am Sorry and ask for forgiveness.

8. Never give up

Healthy couples never give up, no matter how hard things get.

Stay loving!
LoveByte Cupid <3

10 Date Ideas for a Rainy Day



Just because it’s raining doesn’t necessarily mean your date night needs to be cancelled or ruined just make sure to look at it positively and have fun!

When it is raining the general idea is to stay inside as much as possible. If you feel like going out, there are still places to go to, and if not, you can stay at home and have an amazing night anyway! Take advantage of the cozy rain and the possibility to spend the day focusing on each other in a calm and relaxed setting.

1. Play Board Games 

Bring out your old board games and have fun competing against each other! Definetly will bring out the child in you. Spice it up by adding prizes for the winner, such as a backrub or who gets to clean up after dinner.

2. Go to an Arcade

Go to an arcade and have fun trying all the games competing against each other. Definetly will be a day full of memories and laughter.

3. Watch YouTube videos all night.

Make some popcorn or buy some chips and cozy up in front of the computer and watch all the youtube videos you can find. Ask you friends and relatives for recomendations or just go through some of the most popular ones. Type in the craziest things you can imagine in the search field and see what comes up. This is guaranteed fun!

4. Have a question night. 

Pop down in the sofa with your favorite sweets and snuggle up and have a question night of Would you rather….. You will be amazed how much you learn about your partner in this easy and fun question game! Some examples: Would you rather have 100 000 real money, or 1 000 000 in Amazon Gift cards? Would you rather go back to the 1800’s and meet your ancestors, or to the future and meet your great grandchildren?

5. Go bowling or head down to the pool hall 

Going bowling or playing pool can be very fun on a rainy day, or on any day to be honest! Go competitive or teach each other how to play. This can be quite romantic and fun. If you aren’t that competitive, make up your own rules with different prizes for the winner. 

 6. Movie Marathon 

Choose a movie or a television serie and have a marathon watching them. Snuggle up on the sofa and order some food, pop some popcorn and make ice cream sundaes and just cozy up and have fun watching. Talk about your favorite characters and favorite scenes. Go by movie genre if yo can’t find any movie series you would like to watch. You can also go by the Oscars list to find inspiration.

7. Go to a museum

Take the opportunity and explore a nearby museum or an art show you did not even know was running, or go to that exhibition everyone is talking about. Enjoying a day at a local museum together is a great way to spend an afternoon or an evening discovering something new.

8. Go outside

Yes, it is raining, but if you feel you just can’t stay inside another rainy day, go outside and have fun instead! Put on your rain clothes and go jump in the puddles just as you did when you were kids, go for a walk or head down the beach and go swimming.

Just about do anything you want to and ignore the fact that it is raining. Enjoy it instead! The perks about a walk down the park or a swim down the beach on a rainy day is that you will most probably be alone, enjoying the otherwise crowded park all by yourself with your loved one.

9. Creative Art Night

Have a creative night and do DIY art or just paint and sketch together. Take turns sketching each other for example or create your very own Love Map. Get pens, paper and water colours and just have fun. Bring out a bottle of wine and sweets and just go creative! Make paintings to hang on the wall, create love coupons for each other, love cards for later occasions or gifts for friends and family.

10. Play Video Games 

Bring out your video games and have fun! Compete against each other in a racing game to the finish line or take turns playing single player games where you help each other out passing the levels. Spice it up by adding sweet prizes to the winner and just have fun!

Stay loving!
LoveByte Cupid <3


Love Is Simply Enjoying Each Other’s Company



How long have you and Brian been together?

We have been together for almost 415 days. We met at school even though we were of different grades, and it was through a special incident that our paths crossed!

What is your most memorable date?

One day, we were just walking around in the busy city (Hong Kong – Central). We spent the day travelled around randomly using all modes of transport we came across – by bus, tram and ferry. Not forgetting, it was significant because that’s also when we had our first kiss. 

The best date is truly the simplest one. No roses, fancy dinners or expensive dresses involved! Just two people enjoying each other’s company, being comfortable and happy to be spending time together.


How does LoveByte help you in your relationship & what do you use the app for mostly?

It plays a big part in our relationship – we use LoveByte all the time. Most of the time, we use it to chat and post all the pictures we have together. We use it as our main messaging app because we love the stickers on LoveByte!

What is the best advice you would give other couples out there to keep loving?

Fill your thoughts with all the positive and loving thoughts and channel them towards your partner.

You may have noticed that the couple has used LoveByte MiniMe as their avatars on the LoveByte profile. You can create your own too, simply download the app on App Store!

Stay loving!
LoveByte Cupid <3

Easter Celebrations Around the World

Easter is a mainly known as a Christian festival and holiday celebrating the resurrection of Jesus Christ on the third day after his crucifixion as it is described in the New Testament. However, the history of Easter has it origins in the Greek mythology. and is celebrated in different ways across the globe. Easter is today not only a celebration for christians, but open for everyone who wishes to welcome spring and participate in the festivities.

The name Easter was originally derived from the word Eostre who was the name of the ancient Greek goddess of spring. It was believed that every year, she returned to Earth after a long, cold winter and brought along with her the light and warmth of Spring. In her honor, the ancient Greeks held festivals to welcome her and celebrate the onset of spring.

The date of easter varies every year since the old calenders that established Easter followed the sun and the seasons. However, the Western Christians changed this and decided to follow the Gregorian Calendar, and stated that easter falls on a Sunday between 22 March and 25 April, within about seven days after the full moon. However the eastern christians decided to follow another calendar and therefore normally celebrate easter a bit later than the westerners. Due to these different interpretations of the calendars, easter celebrations vary depending on location and year but always occur in the months of March to May. 

Easter Celebrations Around the Globe

 English Speaking World

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Easter in the english speaking world is traditionally spent decorating Easter eggs and hunting for them with children on Sunday morning. Often they have been mysteriously hidden all over the house and garden or brought during the night in an Easter basket, which the children will find waiting for them in the morning when they wake up. The tradition involve parents telling their children that the eggs and other treats such as chocolate eggs and marshmallows have been delivered by the Easter Bunny. The Easter Bunny is a fictional character commonly associated with easter here. and is believed to bring sweets and easter eggs to the children who have been good and kind. Many families observe the religious aspects of Easter as well by attending Sunday Mass or services in the morning at their local church. Some families have a traditional Sunday roast, often of either roast lamb or ham.


Easter Sunday in Greece. Photo from

In Greece where the majority of the population is catholic, this is the most important week of the year. The rituals and preparations vary from every region, but in general the preparations start on holy thursday with the baking of the traditional easter bread. Friday being the most sacred day of the week and during this day people don’t do any chores and Christ’s burial is normally reenacted. On Saturday, before midnight, people gather in the churches holding a white candle, which are light with the “Holy Light”. On Sunday families gather for a feast to celebrate.

In the Czech Republic and Slovakia they have a tradition of spanking or whipping the women on Easter Monday as a legend says that the woman needs to be whipped once a year to keep her health and beauty throughout the next year. In eastern Moravia and Slovakia instead of whipping they normally throw cold water at them. The spanking is not painful nor intended to cause any suffering. The spanking or whipping is done by special made whips with decorative ribbons in the end. Another purpose of the whipping is for the men to show their attraction to the women. Traditionally, the spanked woman gives a coloured egg and sometimes a small amount of money to the man as a sign of her thanks and in some regions, the women can get revenge in the afternoon or the following day when they can pour a bucket of cold water on any man. A similar tradition existed once in Poland but today is more or less an all-day water fight.

Photo from The Prague Guide

In many Central and Eastern European countries, the act of painting and decorating easter eggs is a big part of the Easter celebrations. In Germany, decorated eggs are hung on branches of bushes and trees as decoration around easter week.

In Belgium, France and Netherlands the church bells are normally held silent one or more days before easter as a sign of mourning.

In Sweden they have a tradition of Easter witches when children dress up as witches and walk around knocking the doors in the neighbourhoods requesting treats ( very similar to the trick or treat Halloween many English-speaking countries celebrate)

The Easter witches is an ancient legend that said that all the witches flew off to “Blåkulla” on Easter thursday to have a feast together with the devil, and wouldn’t return until Easter Sunday. In the old days, big bonfires were light on Easter Sunday to scare them from returning, however this tradition only exists in a few parts of the country today.

Easter Witches. Photo by Ulf Bodin

South and Central America

The re-enactment of the crucifixion of Jesus Christ on Good Friday in Iztapalapa in Mexico City April 6, 2012. Photo from

The majority of South America is Catholic and the celebration of The Holy Week of Easter is the most important Catholic religious festival of the year. The week is called Semana Santa, Holy Week and consists of various traditions varying between countries. Each day has its own rituals and the week begins with thursday before the Easter Sunday. Most common are different rituals, processions through the streets with participants on their knees or carrying large wooden crosses. There are several masses and religious observations held together with prayer meetings, and thousands of devout Catholics doing homage.

In many communities, the full Passion Play is enacted from the Last Supper to the Crucifixion and, finally, the Resurrection. During this week, many schools and offices are closed since it is considered a public holiday in many countries.

In Brazil and Mexico it is common not to eat meat on Good Friday. It is also common to make straw men that represents Judas, hang them on the street and beat them for betraying Christ.


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In Asia the Easter celebrations are not as big as in other parts of the world. Even in South Korea where half of the population is Christian, there are hardly any signs of Easter. The celebrations that exist in many of the countries, such as Japan are more of the commercialized ones where the act of painting easter eggs and giving away chocolate treats is an act of Spring celebration and just for fun.

In China easter coincides with the passing of Spring. According to ancient legend, the world was formed from the egg of chaos, while chicks and rabbits occur in many art forms as symbols of life and birth, therefore the three symbols of easter (rabbit, egg, chicken) hold significance in chinese culture as well and are prevailent during this season.

The only country where Easter is a big celebration in Asia is on the Philippines, as they have a strong catholic community.  Here it is celebrated in a grand way and processions and re-enactments of Jesus Christ resurrection take place in some communities. The people attend masses throughout the holy week and celebrate Easter Sunday by going to mass in new clothes and coming home to a delicious feast.

In India, the catholic families have a tradition to keep small boxes where they put money inside to give as a a gift or offering to the churches or people in need.


Ethipian Woman in White Cotton Robe for the holy Saturday Ceremony. Photo from

Easter in Africa is celebrated amongst the Christian communities in these countries. This includes going to church where local dances are held outside and having a feast with your family consisting of rice and chicken or meat. Since chicken and meat is usually very expensive in many countries in Africa, this is truly a luxurious meal for many families.

The churches are decorated in hand-made fabrics made up in the forms of butterflies, flowers, banana trees, etc. The Christian hymns are sung along with the beating of the native African drums.

Happy Easter! 

/ LoveByte Cupid

Boyfriend/girlfriend Tag Video Contest

Hi LoveByters!

We have launched a competition together with Join Me There Video Contest Platform!

Answer 3 questions about each other in a 1 minute video and stand chance to win a relaxing couple spa for 2! (Worth 450 SGD)


To join the competition is easy, just download the JMT App for iOS or Android, film the video and share it with your friends!

The video with the highest JMT score wins the competition and gets to enjoy a wonderful, relaxing couple spa for 2.

The JMT score will be based on how many shares, views and likes your video gets, so make sure to share it with your friends :)

So let your creativity take over and share with us a little bit about your love story and how LoveByte plays a part in your relationship.                                                                                

Some tips for your video:                                                                                    

– Keep it light hearted, be funny and show your humorous side
– Dress up and be a star for the day
– Be part of the video! We would love to see your faces!
– Show us your favourite feature of LoveByte app

To download Join Me There app go to:

Please note that the prizes are to be reedemed in Singapore only.

Good luck and Have fun! 

/ LoveByte Cupid

Creative And Fun Ways to Give a Gift

It is the thought and effort behind the gift that is important, so why not emphasize on this next time you are giving your loved one something? The presentation can many times be even more important than the gift itself!  

This mean that cou can make your loved ones heart skip a beat even on a budget and by making an effort to surprise them. So if you have bought your partner flowers and a chocolate box several times already, how can you mixx it up a bit the next time you want to show them you care, but without having to spend a lot of money?

Here’s a few ways where the presentation is on the emphasis! The gift itself can be anything, a flower boquet, chocolate box or homemade sweets. However, with these tips this gift can become the best present your loved one has ever received! All it requires is some time, creativity and inspiration to execute.


Decorate your loved one’s door so that when he or she comes home, they’ll immediately get a surprise walking up to the door. You can gift wrap it, hang heart shaped balloons or fill it with love notes. If you can’t be inside waiting, leave the gift outside, just make sure it’s not an expensive one so the neighbours will steal it! Leave their favorite sweets, flowers or just a handwritten love letter.

If you want to surprise them by doing a chore, why not surprise your loved one by cleaning the entire house spotless. Gift wrap the door and leave a note saying “Welcome to your New home” as a little hint of what’s expecting inside. Buy or make some special sweets or their favorite food for your loved one to find on the table or in the fridge with the next note saying: No chores to do darling, take the night off and relax. You deserve it!  This is guaranteed to make your loved one feel loved and blessed, and the best thing, it doesn’t cost a dime!


How you wrap the gift can make all the difference. The thought and effort of the wrapping gives the gift an extra touch and makes it more special. You can wrap anything, even a chocolate bar you bought for a few dollars at the supermarket, as long as it is done nicely and with care it will mark the effort and care behind it and also keep your loved one in suspense of what’s inside.

You can buy wrapping papper and accessories to get that luxurious feeling of the gift and buy doing this you can easily get a gift wrapped that represents thought and care as you’ve taken the time to choose paper, wrap it in a nice bow and add other accessories to it.

If you don’t have the time or possibility to do this, just take what you have at home, such as a page from the local newspaper. This requires however more skills on the wrapping part as you still want it to look good and not cheap since it is wrapped in newspaper. Try and choose a page from the paper that only has written text on it to give it  a sleeker less deorganized look. Maybe the page from the comics section can add some colour to the package? Be selective of the page you choose to wrap your present in so it doesn’t have any sad news or wierd photos on it. When you have wrapped it add a piece of string to wrap around the package, and place a small handwritten note on a piece of white papper underneath. Let the note say  Made with love or just a simple I Love You to mark that it is the thought behind it that matters. If you can, add some flowers or leafes you picked outside to glue or attach on the gift, as it shows that little extra care you took to wrap it and make it presentable.


Transform a room to a romantic setting by filling it with balloons, flowers or candles! This setting is perfect even for the smallest gift as the effort of transforming the room and the surprise your loved one gets when entering is enough for them to feel loved and appreciated. 

A tip: Add in some of your favorite photos or write love notes on a piece of paper to hang from the balloons to make it even more special. You can also place the notes or photos in between the candles or flowers just as you can do with your gift, just make sure not to place them to close to the candles so they will catch fire as this is guaranteed to destroy the surprise!

Good luck and Have Fun!

Stay loving!
LoveByte Cupid <3

Funny and sweet love messages to lovebomb your loved one with

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There are few things that brighten up one’s day more than receiving short love messages during the day from your favorite loved one. Here we have gathered some ideas and inspiration for your text messages to your partner. Just change or add things where needed. 

Text away and Have Fun!

  • If you weren’t here I’d be the hottest person in this place.
  • I like you. I like you a LOT.
  • Still laughing about your comment last night 
  • Could you please do me a huge favor? Smile again? Because its the best thing I’ve ever seen
  • I want to get tangled up with you like the earphones in my pocket.
  • If you were a booger, I would pick you first.
  • The police are on the way to arrest you for stealing my heart, hijacking my feelings, and driving me crazy. See you in court!
  • Sweet but not honey,
    precious but not money,
    bright but not sunshine,
    Improves with time but not wine,
    dont know?? ,
    it’s Us!
  • You are one good looking guy/gal- let’s hang out! 
  • You. me. Picnic at 5pm.
  • Yor parents made a mistake,your name must be Google. Why? Because you have everything Im looking for.
  • Thanks for hanging that mirror, you’re so handy!
  • FYI. I love my man/girl.
  • I’m married/dating/engaged to one sexy stud!
  • You are hilarious, still laughing about….
  • Miss u, miss u, wanna kiss u!
  • Do you know I love you? A LOT!
  • Hey hottie, got plans tonight?
  • Be with me? Forever?
  • Perfect night to snuggle. Meet me at 7pm.

/ LoveByte Cupid

Tips for Meeting the Parents for the First Time

Picture from Meet The Parents

Meeting your partner’s parents can be nerve wracking. What will they think of me? What if I don’t like them, or if they don’t like me? There is only one first impression, and if it goes wrong it can become a problem in your relationship. But don’t worry, there are some easy preparations you can do to get a good start with your future in-laws.

Understand the significance

Before you go all panicy about the meeting, think about where your relationship is. Have you already had the talk and maybe even said I Love You to each other? If so, this might be a step for your loved one to show he or she is ready to take your relationship to the next level and wants you to meet the family. This can mark that this is an important step and to prepare for the meeting is a good idea so you can get a good and smooth start with your future relationship to them. 

If you just started dating however this might be a bit difficult to understand. Is it just a casual meeting with no significance at all, or is this your loved one’s way of letting you know they want to get more serious? If this is the case, it might be a good idea to sit down and have the talk with your loved one before you go to meet the parents. Where are you in your relationship? What is the idea of this first meeting?

If you don’t feel ready to meet the parents, let your partner know that. It is important that you are open about how you feel if this is a big thing for you. There are a lot of families who are very open and welcoming about this part and where it is common to bring along friends for gatherings and so forth. You need to know how it is in your partners family so you can better understand the significance of the meeting and be prepared. For some people meeting the friends and the family has no or very little significance and does not mark anything particularly important, whilst in others, this is the most important part of establishing the relationship and marking the importance of it.

What kind of gathering is it?

The next step is to understand what kind of gathering it is. Is it just a casual barbeque with friends of the family or is it someone’s birthday or a big holiday where there are other relatives present as well? This is important for you to understand more about what to expect of the night and to come prepared.

If there are going to be the entire family there, it is good to know beforehand so you don’t show up and become overwhelmed with all the new faces, names and connections. Also, if it is someone’s birthday, it is important that you know that. Are the people in the room all friends of the family or relatives and family members? Ask your partner to give you as much detail about the event as possible so you can be prepared and have some idea of what to expect.

Family etiquette

The next step is to ask your partner all about his or her family codes. Such as how to dress and what kind of etiquette do their parents expect. Are they very strict and formal or more laidback?How does your partners family greet each other? Do they expect a hug, kiss on the cheek, bow or maybe a handshake? Do they expect you to take off your shoes when going in to the house, do they expect to be called sir or madam or do they prefer their first names? Ask your partner for advice on this.

What to wear

Are his or hers family very conventional and always dress up, even for family dinner, or are they more casual and laid back where it doesn’t really matter? Either way, make sure to choose your clothes right for the occassion as you don’t want to show up all dressed up for a casual barbeque where everyone else is in their comfy-clothes and flip-flops, as well as you do not want to do the opposite. Dress appropriately so ask your partner how his or her family is and understand the venue.

Are his or hers parents very religious? It might be a good idea to dress as if you were going to church and put more proper clothes on and leave the heavy metal T-shirt or mini-skirt at home. In any case it is a good idea to dress on the conservative side, do however not overdo it as your true style will come out in the end if you are in the relationship for the long run.

It’s always safer to choose a more conservative look for the first few times, and once you get to know them you’ll have a better understanding of what is acceptable and not. 

Do your research

Ask your partner about his or hers parents. What do they like and not like? What do they do for a living? Do they have any special hobbies? Try and get some basic information about them so you can prepare some topics for the conversation and maybe find something in common you can talk about. This is important as well so you can avoid sensitive subjects and maybe saying something that goes  against their beliefs or likings.

Handholding and kissing

It’s all nice and sweet with handholding, hugs and kisses as it shows a healthy relationship, but this might not be appropriate in front of your partners parents. It can be awkward and uncomfortable enough for people to see two persons being very affectionate, but remember it might be even worse when it is your own child. So think about the parents and keep your hands off each other for the night and try and focus on the interaction with your partner’s parents instead.

Show appreciation

To show appreciation can be simple things such as saying thank you for the delicious dinner, to bring a homemade cake or small flowers with you when going to visit. Do ask your partner first if they think it is a good idea as what you might think is appropriate isn’t for his or her family. For example if you want to bring a small bottle of wine as this is common in your family, it might be a totally different history in theirs.

There could be a history of alcoholism you don’t yet know about, or just the fact that they don’t drink at all for various reasons and don’t appreciate alcoholic beverages. This can become a very awkward situation so do ask your partner first and try not to go overboard with the items or the appreciation as well as it will only come off as false and as if you are trying to showoff and buy their affection.

Avoid conversation pitfalls

It is a good idea to avoid subjects such as politics and religion the first time you meet your partner’s parents as these are guaranteed discussion starters that can get heated easily. Some parents can be very straightforward with their opinions and ask you all sorts of things just to test you out.

The important part here is not to lie, even if your opinions might be the total opposite of your partner’s parents. Be honest and respond to these questions you can’t get out of with the most respectful way possible. It is a good idea to ask your partner beforehand how his or her parents are so you have some heads up about this before going over.

If they say something that offends you, just stay composed and try to change the subject or say something like, I’ll guess we’ll just have to agree to disagree on that if necessary. It might be a good idea to consider having a pre-arranged word or signal to let your partner know that you need assistance or some support before going over.

A classic pitfall as well is the awkward silence, so try and have some questions ready to ask to your future in-laws. You can ask things about their hobbies, how was it like when they first met and how was your partner like as a child? These conversations are very personal and do show that you are interested in learning more about your partner and his or hers family.

However, these questions might not always be suited for the occasion so try and have some other more casual ones ready as well such as..

  • Where did you go on vacation the last time?
  • How was your week or weekend?

You can always try and find something in the house that you really like and compliment your partner’s parents on it and ask questions such as where does it come from if it is a special object for example.

Don’t assume the worst

After all is done, don’t assume the worst. It probably went a lot better than you think! Don’t expect a love-fest after the first meeting either  Not everything will have run smoothly but you will get there in the end. If you did get into trouble, you can still recover! Remember that with time all bad moments end up being a funny story to tell later. If you messed up really bad, don’t just fall in to sending a message through your partner or sending a quick text or e-mail to say you are sorry as this is much less personal and can be taken as a sign that you don’t care by the parents. By taking the time and effort of contacting them yourself with a handwritten note or a phone call, this really shows how much you care and wish to have a good relationship with them.

Stay loving!
LoveByte Cupid <3