Monthly Archives: May 2013

Talking about Space

 

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We all know that the problem with space is an elusive one that none of us actually have clear cut answers to. Probably the best reason for that is that everyone has different preferences. As the saying goes, a man’s poison is another man’s meat.

Sadly, more often than not, couples have difficulties striking a balance when it comes to space and some unfortunately fall out of love due to the inability to compromise. However, as inevitable as the problem seems, this issue with space may not be as unsolvable as widely believed.

So how can we help you with that?

Treat your partner how you want to be treated

“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. [Mathew 7:12]” This is old, we know, but there is a reason for it. Always practice what you preach. Give him/her exactly the amount of space you need them to give you. For instance, if you are a guy and you need a day off each week to join your friends for a few rounds of drinks or to watch a game, allow her to have a day off to catch up with her friends too. This is definitely the fairest arrangement that you can have in the relationship.

What if we want different things?

The above will only work if the couple already have similar ideas on the kind of space they want. But if you and your partner have different plans in mind, for instance he wants and is willing to give 3 days off a week but she only wants a day off, or she doesn’t appreciate constant messaging but he wants to communicate with her all the time, there’s an alternative route to happiness don’t worry. The solution is to compromise. Sit down and come to an agreement on things so neither of you feels dissatisfied or neglected. Both must voice out their concerns and reasons so that there could be an exchange of ideas and this will definitely boost mutual understanding.

Is giving too much space a problem?

Yes it could be a problem. Sometimes when the both of you have lots of space, you tend to pile your schedules with tons of activities without each other. That is a problem because quality time spent with each other will definitely be lesser. If too much of that is happening, the relationship might have a chance to drift and we wouldn’t want that would we? Of course time spent away from each other is essential and healthy and we do encourage that, but do remember to put aside quality time for your beloved partner too.

All in all, space may be a challenging issue to deal with, but with open communication and understanding, everything can be worked out. And trust us, almost every couple would have had problems with it, so if you do, you’re not alone and it is completely normal. We hope this entry help some loving couples who have difficulties dealing with space. Stay tune and stay loving with us!

Love,
LoveByte Cupid

 

Top 8 romantic dining places for couples

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Ever forgotten an anniversary or an important date and thus needing an emergency dinner plan? In need of ideas where to bring your sweetheart next? Or looking for a fresh new dining experience to break out of that hectic weekday routine? You got it. LoveByte is here to help!

The following are 8 different, to di(n)e for, dining experience we have to offer!

  1. Pizza joint

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This is exceptionally lovely for high school sweet hearts, and had been together since forever. Why not relive the sweet, young and innocent moments at the pizza joint that you used to go for dates? Sharing a pizza with your favorite toppings and sipping cola while exchanging fond memories of those carefree and guileless days. Blessed are those who found love so early in their life.

 

  1. Restaurant with a view

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Just imagine sipping a sweet cocktail while overlooking the city lights and the bustling of urban vibrancy. What’s the best part? The love of your life standing right beside you, absorbing the same scenery and reminiscing about the same things that are going through your mind. In times like this, words are unnecessary; the right company makes everything feel right.

 

  1. Seafood grill by the beach

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If the above picture doesn’t convince you to dine by the beach, we don’t know what will. A picture perfect view of you and partner enjoying fresh lobster salad, grilled succulent jumbo prawns, butter sauce halibut and pan seared scallops with sips of Sauvignon Blanc. All these while staring deep into your lover’s eyes and having gentle waves and sand tickling your toes, it’s a whole new world we heard.

 

  1. Romantic Italian

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Calling for all food lovers (pun intended) out there, Italian night out is a must! When it comes to romance, lusty Italian food is an aphrodisiac. Be it home made meat balls, or any tomato based pasta that an Italian restaurant serves you, they make couples want to clasp hands across the table. Try it and you’ll know it.

 

  1. Cosy BBQ in the back yard

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What’s a better idea than a private party for 2? From picking out your favourite BBQ ingredients at the grocery store to preparing them and partaking in the actual grill, it is an experience all couples should go through. It’s time to clad ourselves in those hot shorts, roll back the sleeves on those tone arms and turn up the heat!

 

  1. Themed cafés

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For the cute couples who are constantly on the lookout for new and interesting dining experience, you guys may want to check out quaint little themed cafés that every city has. We assure that you will have a rolling good time with your partner checking out collected items (may be shoes, cats stuff, cute figurines, comic books etc) and maybe buying some back as furniture or decorative for future homes!

 

  1. Back to the 70s and 80s, retro café and bars

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Relive your parents’ time, fall in love again with your partner at the spot that your parents did, and just sit back and soak up the retro spirit that never really died. In this case, you’re probably paying more for the ambiance and experience and not really food. There’s a reason why your folks fell in love and you’ll know it too once you’ve tried it.

 

  1. Killer Ferris wheel dining experience

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“Killer” is the word that describes this ultimate dining experience. This is the unbeatable combo of fine dining while enjoying the night (or day if you prefer) view in full 360 degrees, yes you have heard that right, dining in the Ferris wheel cabin/capsule. Nothing compares to this particular experience, as it is a bunch of experience (food, view, heights, love) experienced in one! Mind blown.

We hope this post will help you plan something nice for your sweetheart the next time there is a reason to celebrate. Remember, every date should be like the magical 3rd date. So no matter where you go, have fun and stay loving!

Love,
LoveByte Cupid

 

 

 

Chic guide to dating for Girls: The Girl Code

 

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Let’s face it. We all want to be Audrey Hepburn, the icon for fashion and “Chic-ness” when it comes to the dating game. We all want to be perceived by men as effortlessly sexy and elegant at the same time. And yet, we don’t want to appear like we are trying too hard. So how do we do it?

LoveByte’s solution to this problem is a “Chic guide to dating for girls: The Girl Code.”

But first, what does “Chic” mean?
“Chic” is a French word which came from the German word, “Schick”. A chic woman is someone who exudes style and sophistication in all things she do. In fact, she is a personification of style and sophistication.

The Girl code:

#1 “Chic-ness” comes from within.

To start it off, being chic comes from the core of us. To look good, one must feel good and be comfortable in one’s own skin. And the only way to do that is to take extremely good care of ourselves, both mentally and physically. There is a reason for the invention of the healthy eating plate and pyramid. If you have not heard of them, it’s seriously high time to take a look.

On top of that, regular exercises will also help to boost metabolism rates and balance our state of mind. Taking good care of yourself and in turn, portraying that you are well maintained is definitely très chic.

#2 Rock that look.

The second step to being chic is to package ourselves, which means grooming, make up and wardrobe. Chic women are usually well groomed and they wear their make-up and clothes appropriately.

Grooming procedures are generally broken down into several categories, namely skin care, hands and nails, hair care and eyebrows, surplus hair (such as facial hair, hair on legs, arms, armpits) oral hygiene and odor  The key to being adequately groomed is consistency. A chic woman takes care of her health and appearance habitually and thus also representing a well maintained outlook.

Make-up for chic women are usually kept to a minimal, achieving this natural, no –make-up look that will leave people wondering how perfect her skin is. Even for formal events, the tone of the make-up should point towards natural, earthy tone and if there is a focus, it should only be on one particular feature. For example, if you wish to focus your make-up look on the lips, choose a lip color that is outstanding, maybe red, and leave the rest of the features on your face in natural tones.

As for clothing, we believe that each and every one of you has your own preferences and as long as it passes the 3 color rule, it’ll be good enough. However, a chic woman will definitely have something really important in her wardrobe, a little black dress.

#3 Be assertive.

A chic woman definitely knows what she wants and makes an active attempt to get it. We are talking about being independent and decisive with our choices and now what we want. It gathers respect from people around you and a man will definitely be impressed with lady who can make up her mind and know what she wants. However, even though it’s pretty obvious, being assertive is a far cry from being unreasonable. Nobody fancies an unreasonably stubborn mule as a partner.

#4 Rule the conversation.

Knowing what to say and turning the conversation to your advantage makes a woman extremely attractive. For this to be possible homework has to be done and prior knowledge to your partner’s hobbies and preference would really be beneficial. A man can never resist a woman with knowledge and will be wrapped around your finger in a second if you know and are interested in the same hobby.

#5 Initiate when necessary.

As cliché as it sounds, it is the 21st century and there really is nothing wrong with taking initiatives. Of course you can’t take charge and leave you partner trailing behind all the time. Your partner will definitely be glad to just sit-back and enjoy once in a while, while you exercise your creativity regarding dates or any other plans. As with #3, taking charge when necessary will make you look more chic and independent, and men will definitely be more appreciative and respective of your choices.

#6 Don’t be needy and over-dramatic.

This is an absolute no-no for all women out there and something that needs to be highlighted. Being clingy and dramatic is anti-chic and a one-way ticket to single-hood  Of course, some men like their women to be more damsel-like but damsel in distress only works when it’s applied at the right circumstances. Pulling the same tricks all the time will definitely backfire and drive your men away. Therefore, sometimes it is better to appear more confident and cool when things aren’t going your way. Men will also treat you with more respect and interest when you can keep a cool head and attitude, because that will make you look different as compared to the typical women they have in mind.

#7 Public Display of Affection – Do it right!

Do hold hands and give hugs in public. No matter what they say, all men like a little attention especially in front of an audience. Simple and random acts of hands holding and hugs can make a difference to a regular date when it’s carried out at the right time. Why not surprise him with a back hug once in a while when you’re on an escalator or elevator? He’ll definitely be remembering your touch for the whole night!

#8 Master the Push-Pull tactic.

This, my friends, is the ultimate trump that men hold. You need to understand their strategy before developing your own. The Push-Pull tactic is tactic that a person (survey has shown that they are mostly men) employ when the other party already has attraction for them and they are accelerating it and upping their game, making it sure that the “catch” is secured.

Push is when you distant yourself away from your partner deliberately, be it emotionally or even physically, and Pull is the opposite, doing everything affectionately for your partner. By employing the different Push-Pull tactic at appropriate times, one can be sure that their partners will be falling head over heels for them without understanding the situation. However, we are not suggesting you to play such mind games, because it can backfire quite horribly if not done properly or worse, discovered. Yet, we do not want women to continuously fall for this tactic employed by experienced players so do watch out and master the Push-Pull tactic that men typically employ on their targeted “catch”, which may be you.

So girls, whether or not you are in a relationship, LoveByte hopes these dating tips will help you in your dating career and get the man of your dreams.

Remember to stay tune to us for more interesting posts. Stay Loving!

Love,
LoveByte Cupid

 

 

 

 

Dating advice for guys: How to keep it smooth

First of all, happy May to ALL! MAY all of you couples out there have a magically MAGNIFICENT time this MAY! Take a look at our ScratchCards for this month if you haven’t.

A prelude before we start this blog post proper, this post is specifically written for our male audience out there. However girls, feel free to read and give some useful tips to your partner or male friends out there who need it. :p

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So, LoveByte has some dating advice for our guy friends here. Why is this necessary? After a talk with a friend the other night, we realized that in every guy, no matter whether he appears confident or not, is a Charlie Brown. That is to say, a little boy call Charlie Brown lives in all of our (male, of course) hearts.

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How so? And why Charlie Brown you may ask? Well, Charlie Brown, as you all know, is the main character from the comic strip Peanuts, the owner of the ever popular dog Snoopy. For those unfamiliar with our little friend here, Charlie is known to have this bad case of permanent bad luck. Almost everything he does will fail. However, the one thing Charlie never fails to do is to pick himself up and persevere on.

So what makes a guy a Charlie Brown? One word, insecurity. Insecurities never fail to destroy whatever confidence and swag a guy might have before a big event. And believe it or not, girls are one of the biggest feat a guy would need to overcome in his life. Just like girls, guys too get clammy and white-faced before the biggest date in his life and if it goes badly, everything inside him crumbles as well.

Therefore guys, LoveByte is here to save and these are the top 10 dating advice to keep your date smooth. (These are useful for guys at different stages of their dating career too!)

#1 Look good, look your best

Who says only guys are superficial creatures? In actual fact, everyone is superficial to a certain extend. Of course, we’re not talking about designer’s clothing from head to toes. But to make sure you get the full attention from your date that evening, don’t give her any reason for her eyes to wander off you.

We understand it’s pretty impossible to look as if you’re cut out from a female magazine, and all things start from scratch. So we’re talking about looking fresh (preferably out of a shower), well groomed (haircut, shaved, nails and teeth taken care of), well dressed (neat and clean) and smelling good (a dash of cologne). You following?

#2 Manners

It may seem like a “duh” to you but to some, manners are apparently not innate. However comfortable you are (already) with your date, keep those wild moments in private please. Unbeknownst to you, your date might feel rather uncomfortable at the expense of your lack of sensitivity. So do practice chivalry and treat your girl like a princess whenever you’re out in public with her.

#3 Stay within your comfort zone

Even the most experienced player in the game will tell you to stick to your comfort zone. Only when adrenaline kicks in, once in a while, should you do something you’re not comfortable with. This is because, when you’re uncomfortable, your body language and facial expression screams it and your date WILL know, and in turn feel equally uncomfortable. So take the liberty to plan out your dates carefully, sticking to both you and date’s comfort zones.

#4 Plan, not rehearse

Following up with the previous point, its always wise to plan your date and not leave it to circumstances. Some things are uncontrollable, yes we agree. But there are a lot of things that you can control. Like making sure you bring enough money or cards out (find out beforehand the prices of tickets and stuffs), knowing the routes to the places you are going (you don’t want to be lost, not with a date observing you at your side), having a wet weather plan (now you can’t say “I can’t control the weather” because that’s no excuse for a bad date) and even planning (not rehearse, because it WILL sound scripted and fake when you do)  what kind of conversation that can likely take place at the place that you have planned to bring her. A girl will definitely like to see herself being taken care of, and not have to worry about where to go or what to do next.

#5 Get 2nd Opinion

This is where your friends come in. Go on and ask them about their opinions on what you had planned for a date. That should give you more insights of what to look out for. However, we are assuming you’re not asking friends who are known douche bags. You would know who to ask.

#6 Give her your attention

Nothing ruins a date like an uninterested party. If you are interested in your date, frequent checks on your watch or your mobile phones or the restaurant door, as minimal as you thought your glances were, should not be happening. Your date will be able to tell you’re distracted and will assume you’re not interested in her. As much as you are already comfortable with her, it’s only gentlemanly to give your date your full attention when you are out with her.

#7 Listen rather than give solutions

Girls, unlike guys, didn’t offer their problems so that they can be solved. They just needed to get it out of their chest. Unless specifically requested, “Can you help me fix this?” This rule applies to all conversation.

#8 Don’t play games

You don’t want to turn out to be one of those guys that girls spend their lives running away from. Other than despicable reasons, LoveByte couldn’t think of any reasons why a guy would want to mess with a girl’s feelings. Don’t play games. Make your intentions known early (of course we’re not telling you to scare her off on day 1). For example, if you’re texting or flirting with her all the time, she’s will think you want a relationship. If you don’t want a relationship, then don’t mislead her. Make sure she knows what she’s in for.

#9 Get involved with her life

Instead of wanting to spend time alone with her all the time, get to know her family and friends. It’ll give you insights on how she lives her life, her priorities and understand her as a person more. It also gives her family and friends to have a chance to like you and give you bonus points for being dedicated and sweet. Win-win eh?

#10 Keep negativity (including exes) out of conversations

Just as guys couldn’t understand how that adorable ball of fluff can turn into a monster due to this strange thing called menstrual cycle, girls wouldn’t want to date a grouch either. Also, your date wants to hear about your exes as much as you want to hear about hers. This is definitely mutual. So keep that chin up and show her how glad you are to see her every time you see her. (: Smile away my friends!

Oh and who says the Charlie Brown in you is always bad? If you don’t already know, Charlie is also known to be a cheerful optimist who never lets his failures dim his smile. So keep that Charlie Brown in you we’ll say!

All the best to all guys dating out there. Ladies, stay tuned to our blog for dating advice just for the girls on our next blog post. Stay with LoveByte and Stay Loving!

Love,
LoveByte Cupid