Monthly Archives: January 2013

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Love,
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5 little things you can do to improve your relationship today

When was the last time you did something nice for your loved one? Does your relationship feel like it’s stagnating? Maybe you’ve both been busy or you are just going with the flow. We know exactly how it feels like. Here are 5 little things you can do to improve your relationship. You know, little things (done on a regular basis) actually go a longer way than grand gestures of love :)

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Be nice
It’s the weekend! Ditch the boring routine and take your loved one to a place he or she has been wanting to but never got around to doing it. Visit the quaint book store she has been talking about or suggest to go get his Transformers collector’s item.

Speak nice
If you’re not aware, I’m telling you now, that if your partner looks good during your dates, it’s because he or she has taken the effort to dress up for you. A simple “You look nice/beautiful today” will suffice. For the receivers, just accept it graciously without asking “Am I not pretty on other days?!” :D Send messages of sweet little nothings telling her that you miss her and cannot wait to see her over the weekend.

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Listen
In many relationships, we often find a quieter person being paired up with someone more vocal. Even if your partner does not talk about his or her life, problems at work or home, it does not mean that they do not exist. Maybe they do not feel like they should burden you with their problems or perhaps they have been so used to listen to you talk that they do not feel like they have a chance to speak about themselves. So take the first step, ask him about his day and be patient if he has something to say.

Compromise
A lot of happy couples seldom have major fights. That’s because they preempt fights from happening. If the conversation seemed like it was going to lead to an argument, someone would try to ease the situation. Of course, every couple will have disagreements. When they happen, tell yourself and your partner that these fights are less important than the both of you, resolve it quickly and move on. Honestly, when you take a step back, you realise the things you have fought hard over are very trivial.

Trust
Believe him when he says he is with the boys. Believe that she is the smart reasonable woman you first met and listen to her needs instead of thinking she is just kicking up a fuss over nothing.

Is it easy to focus at work when you are worried about what your partner is doing? Can you go to sleep if keep wondering if your parter lied to you?  When we trust our partners, we stop doubting and we can behave as normal functional individuals capable of a healthy relationship. When we have a peace of mind, the other aspects of our lives do not get affected and the relationship cease to seem so much like a burden.

Therefore, trusting our partners actually benefits us more than them.

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Stay lovin’.

Love,
LoveByte Cupid <3

 

Chick flicks we love & lessons we learnt

Chick flick: a film genre mainly dealing with love and romance designed to appeal to a largely female target audience.

Boyfriends usually dread being pulled to the theaters for chick flicks such as the last installment of Twilight and Sex and the City. They would rather re-watch Transformers or The Hangover gladly for the third time. Granted, there are some chick flicks that have dialogues so cheesy, plot lines so predictable that we either get goosebumps or bored during the show.

Fortunately, the film making industry isn’t all that bad and we get quite a few good movies from time to time. Some chick flicks do offer us stories with decent depth and interesting characters who more often than not, present us with truths and insights to our own relationships, reminding us of the mistakes we make daily but unknowingly, and inspiring us to love more deeply.

Here’s a list of the most memorable lessons learnt:

He’s Just Not That Into You

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Gigi: Remember the girl who analyses every word and action a guy says or does and assumes that he likes her? Let’s face it, she’s the kind of girl that nobody wants to be but we all have moments when we behaved like her. Wondering if he called and maybe he didn’t because something happened.

Lesson learnt:

  • Take it easy. Focus on other things in your life. If a guy wants to date you, he will make it happen. He will ask you out. Don’t even make excuses for “he’s too afraid to ask me out”, because if he’s really too afraid, chances are, he’s not ready.

Ruby Sparks

 

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Calvin: This is a thought provoking story about an extremely talented writer who wrote the girl of his dreams to life. Whenever Calvin did not like the way the relationship or Ruby was, he would simply write how he wanted her to be and she would change immediately. However, each time there would be a drawback and eventually, he realised how wrong it all was.

Lessons learnt:

    • It’s unnatural to be able to change and alter your partner into the ideal person that you want. It was selfish for Calvin to expect and want her to change without doing his part for the relationship. Does this sound like some of us? Maybe we don’t even realise when we try to change our partners.
    • Calvin could not accept Ruby’s needs to have a social life outside of their relationship and wanted her attention all focused on him. Are we doing that in our own relationships? Do we give each other enough space?
  • To be fair, Calvin made mistakes that people commonly do in relationships, however, because he owned her, he could change the way he wanted her to be with his words, the exaggerated results becomes quite shocking for the viewers.

The Holiday

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Amanda & Iris: Both women went on a vacation to get away from their relationship troubles back home and fell in love with a guy they meet there.

Lessons learnt:

    • Walk away from the people who aren’t good for you. Before they could meet the right people, Amanda and Iris had to leave the men who were hurting them.
  • Love happens when you least expect it. :) As cliche as it may sound, it’s true. And when it comes, have the courage to take the leap of faith and receive it.

Going the Distance 

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This is a story about a couple living in opposite ends of the country. To keep their relationship alive, they travel back and forth to visit each other while trying to find ways to live in the same city. During which, Garett gives up the relationship because he does not want Erin to turn away an excellent job offer just to move to New York for him.

Lessons learnt:

    • This movies demonstrates quite accurately the problems with long distance relationships- the lack of physical intimacy, insecurity, wondering if your partner is cheating on you, getting frustrated and questioning where the relationship is going.
    • Chances are, if you are in a long distance relationship, both of you are in for the longhaul. Both parties will want to live together someday. There are no clear solutions for ldr but I believe it helps when both parties have a common goal (living together, getting married etc) and they take active steps to make it happen ie. look for a job, pick up the local language
  • Meanwhile, learn to live independently while keeping in close contact. Make time for each other- Skype regularly, use the LoveByte app to chat; send each sweet messages and look at the shared timeline of beautiful memories. Look at how far you have both come and remember all the good times you have had. This might not solve all your relationship problems but I guarantee it will make the waiting process less painful.

Stay lovin’

Love,
LoveByte Cupid <3
 

Quote of the week: LoveByte #7

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They didn’t agree on much. In fact, they didn’t agree on anything. They fought all the time and challenged each other every day. But despite their differences, they have one important things in common. They were crazy about each other.

The Notebook

Love,
LoveByte Cupid <3

New Year, New Beginnings

At the start of each new year, we tell ourselves never to look back on the terrible things that have happened in the past. We make new year resolutions, set new goals and create new to-do lists for 2013, looking forward to fresh new beginnings.

Many single friends I know are either looking forward to another year of single hood awesomeness or a chance to meet that special someone. It always seems so much more uncertain and exciting for the single people as compared to those in relationships. So what’s it in for those who already have a special person in their lives. In 2013, we can all take a little effort to make even 15-year relationships as good as new.

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 Recognise, Readapt

Another year has passed. And in every year, each experience has affected us in some ways or another. Traumatic life events such as a breakup, retrenchment and death can have a huge impact. We may become wiser, warier or perhaps more insecure. Life goals and personal aspirations change. It may be hard, but it is important to recognise how we and our partners have changed. Do not have unrealistic expectations of your loved one and assume he or she would behave the exact same way when you both first met. Instead, it is a good time to slow down and get to know each other again. These changes and inability to adapt might have well been the cause of fights in the past year. Make sure they are resolved and you can start off the year on a clean slate.

Renewal

When was the last time you listened to each other? When was the last time you paid attention to your loved one’s aching shoulders or problems at work? We always hear about how things become dull and boring after the honeymoon period. But things change precisely because we don’t keep up with the daily evening calls and sweet surprises. We take it for granted that our partner would always be there hence we don’t put in as much effort as we did initially. It’s a self-reinforcing cycle.

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To be fair, I know it’s hard to keep up everyday with work and family commitments. But let’s show that we care on a regular, say weekly basis? And let’s be smart about it. We have known our partner for a certain amount of time and if ask yourself, deep down we all know of our shortcomings and we might already have a clue of how we can improve our own relationships without being melodramatic. For me, I would start taking effort to plan our weekends and not leave it all to my partner to find a restaurant, make reservations and buy the movie tickets. :)

Reaffirm

Through thoughtful acts, spontaneity and communication, we reassure our partners of our love and loyalty. Understanding that our goals are aligned helps give us a renewed sense of purpose and appreciation for our partner’s presence. Especially for couples who have had a very rough year, be thankful you guys stuck through that long. When we reaffirm our love and desire to make more beautiful memories, we give us and our loved one a great start to the year.

Reward

When we work to make each day count, we will be rewarded everyday.

 

Looking forward to an absolutely amazing year.

Love,
LoveByte Cupid <3